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Father daughter dance

MLS, on July 22, 2020 at 1:10 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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I have a strained relationship with my father. My childhood was complicated and we didn't see eye to eye from when I was 8 years old and up. We don't get along very well. I am willing to have him walk me down the aisle (however I would rather my mom do it). I am going to pick my battles. However, I am not interested remotely in the father daughter dance. He probably also wouldn't want to do it either. I have opinionated people in my life who will make comments about my lack of tradition in that regard.

Anyone have similar situation or advice?

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on July 22, 2020 at 3:24 PM

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Melle · on July 22, 2020 at 1:12 PM
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I have a good relationship with my father but I skipped the parent dances entirely. I don’t think you need to have the parent dances if you’re not interested in it
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Maggie · on July 22, 2020 at 1:28 PM
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Sounds like there are zero reasons for you to dance with your father. And potential comments from opinionated people are definitely not a reason to do anything you don't want to do. Don't discuss planning details with those people and smile/nod/ignore/change the subject if they do bring it up.
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Jasmine · on July 22, 2020 at 2:15 PM
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It's definitely normal to just skip the parent dances. You can either find something to replace the time or skip the time slot completely.
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Shantell · on July 22, 2020 at 2:35 PM
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I have a very strange relationship with my father so I relate. He wasn’t around until I was 14 but we recently started talking more the last couple of years. So he is walking me down the aisle but we aren’t doing a dance. My FH is doing a mother son dance because he’s very close with his mother but i don’t want to have an uncomfortable dance with someone I barely know so I am skipping it.
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Sinaya · on July 22, 2020 at 3:07 PM
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Their opinions and comments are not footing the bill, so don't do anything you're uncomfortable with. It's your day, you can make it what you want it to be. And in the age of COVID nothing is traditional these days.
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Elizabeth · on July 22, 2020 at 3:24 PM
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People will always have things to say about your wedding, but things like that are entirely up to you. It's not like you not doing that dance will negatively affect them in any way, so it's not something where their opinion is very important. I hate if that sounds rude, but in reality, if it doesn't affect them, then you get to decide on your own. It's your day and when it comes to things like that, you get to make the decision. Good luck!
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