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Father daughter dance for the father that wasnt there

Jennifer, on November 10, 2013 at 9:13 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

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I am in need of some help to figure out a good song for the father daughter dance. My parents have always been divorced, but my mom moved for a job when I was 8 and my father decided he did not want to call or send cards. He left that job up to his wife at that time. Well, when I was 18 his sisters (my aunts) convinced me to try one email to see if he would respond and tell him the disappointment. He did start contacting me some, although there does not seem to me to be a close relationship at all. I feel like it is only when he has time to have a relationship with his kids he talks to us. Well, I have already taken him out of the whole wedding, although my grandfather wants me to keep the father daughter dance just to allow him to have a small moment. Please any suggestions on non-gushy father daughter songs or something that might be appropriate is greatly appreciated! I feel I am running out of ideas!

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Latest activity by FutureMrsT, on December 5, 2013 at 10:10 AM

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Tatiana · on November 10, 2013 at 9:22 PM
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What about, "What a wonderful world" by louis armstrong? It fits, without it being about a father daughter relationship.

I know some people also combine father/daughter and mother/son dances so they happen at the same time, could be an option if you aren't super excited about it.
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ItsGoodToBeKing · on November 10, 2013 at 9:23 PM
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You don't HAVE to have this dance, or you can have it with another male member of the family who did have an influence (positive) on your life...

my bestie got married the other weekend and her f/d dance (rocky relationship also) was to "Over the Rainbow" by braddah iz
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Almost Mrs. Marvel · on November 10, 2013 at 9:24 PM
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It seems that you are closer to your grandfather, what about a grandfather/granddaughter dance?
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Amanda · on November 10, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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I am in a similar situation, parents divorced when I was 10 and my relationship with my father was nonexistent ever since then. It's a very difficult and long story. I decided that I will invite him to the wedding but that is it, he won't walk me down the aisle nor have a father/daughter dance. That is if he even bothers to show up.
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Jennifer · on November 10, 2013 at 9:35 PM
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Thanks ladies! I have my brother walking me down the aisle which has really upset my grandfather because he is very traditional when it comes to weddings. I had thought about the Grandfather instead of my dad but he just isn't mobile enough. I do like the idea of combining the dances though!
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pittielvr · on November 10, 2013 at 10:09 PM
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You don't need one. Maybe do the dance with your grandfather? You could always just do a snippet of a song instead of the whole song.
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SupermanBride · on November 11, 2013 at 8:46 AM
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I agree that you absolutely don't have to do one. I like the grandfather idea! I've also seen mother daughter dances, you could also do a dance with you FIL if you have a special relationship with him.
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FutureMrsT · on December 5, 2013 at 10:10 AM
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I also struggled with this topic. My parents never divorced but my dad travels for work & wasn't around much when I was a kid. We didn't develop ,relationship til my teens. I had issues with him about helping pay forthe wrdding (money has always been a sore spot with my fam) anyway I found a song that fit our unique relationship, "thank you for the music" by Abba, its not patent child specific at all but relates to my dad & I cuz music is one of the few things we have in common. I happened upon this song while listening to the Mama Mia soundtrack. I'm sure you'll figure out the best approacj, do what makes you happy, not ur grandfather. It's your moment.
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