Father Daughter Dance Dilemma

I probably would just skip it. Your FMIL and FH can still have their dance

You could do a short father daughter dance. Those dances tend tend to drag. Your guests will appreciate you cutting it to 1-2 minutes.

@Natalie that's what I was sort of thinking too. It's just hard to pick out a song because we're not that close!

I personally don't like any of these dances and barely tolerate the first dance. As @Natalie said, they go on too long and are usually boring unless the people actually know how to dance. Even then, enough. Don't force something that isn't there. If you were super close to your dad, then okay, I get it. But the dance is already awkward enough for the guests to watch without the two of you being even more awkward.

Our band played half-songs, for the two parent dances. My mother and sister joined my father and I, on the dance floor, and the 4 of us danced together, during the last verse of our song.

I'm in the same boat as you.. parents divorced and I've never been very close to my dad. I think he loves me more than he shows and would be extremely upset if we skipped the father daughter dance.. especially if your FH and FMIL are doing a dance. Imagine how your dad would feel. I feel your pain about the awkwardness but it's just a few minutes for a moment your dad will cherish forever.

Do a faster-paced, fun song. I'm closer to my dad, but we aren't super mushy. Songs like "Butterfly Kisses" make me gag. But really, you should ask your dad. You should have a very candid conversation with him and ask how he feels about it. That might answer your question better than internet strangers.

I had a candid convo with my dad about our dance - we both happily agreed that we want to skip it! It's just not us.

Thanks everyone...I think deep down I know I need to talk to him about it but I just need to work up the courage! lol I don't think I was even this nervous about telling him we were engaged

I felt the same way!! It turned out fine, of course. Yours will, too.

I'm in a similar boat, except that I know my dad would be upset if I skipped it. Picking a song that had the right sentiment was difficult for me so I decided that I'm going to ask him to pick the song

@Jess'sGirl I'm not close to my dad but I toughed it out. He chose Butterfly Kisses (I let him chose) and I wanted to die. The most awkward dance of my life.

My dad has been looking forward to our father daughter dance as long as I've been alive and has had a song picked out for years. FWs dad does not understand wedding or sentimentality and she thinks a dance with him would be awkward. So we're just doing one for me, and some people may think it's weird but it's what works for us. Do what works best for the two of you

Talk to him. We opted out of all the special dances except the 1st dance. I was the only one who wanted the father daughter dance and my FH mother passed when he was a teen so i opted to just eliminate them. I don't think they will be missed

@mrsbarton That's the situation I'm dreading! Thankfully I don't think he knows the song Butterfly Kisses...

If your FH wants to have a dance with his mom, he can and that doesn't mean you have to have one too. They can have theirs and you can skip yours. Totally a decision you can make with your FH.

I'm in a similarish boat. Didn't grow up living with my dad but do have a relationship with him. He's very affectionate and we love each other very much. FMIL is really excited to dance with FH. For some reason my dad hasn't shown interest in the wedding, which fine nobody will care as much as I do. But we're not estranged either so I don't know how the dance and other things will turn out.