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Just Said Yes September 2020

Father daughter dance and mother son dance Father in law bride dance

Ashleigh, on June 3, 2020 at 3:36 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

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This is my third wedding I was walked down the aisle by my parents at my first wedding at the ripe age of 21....the second one I eloped and this one we’re paying for on our own. I must add that the first marriage I had a restraining order against him and the second marriage we were not in the right state of mind and so here I am doing this for a third time and final time and it’s the first time that I feel love is pure. We have known each other since 2008 and it always seem like we were in the wrong place at the wrong time until 2018.... I don’t want my father to walk me down the aisle because I think that he’s already giving me away and I don’t need him to give me away again. My sister seems to think that my dad will have a problem with this but I don’t really care. I’ve already done a father daughter dance with my dad and it was awkward. I wanted to dedicate my dance with my dad to my parents because their marriage has lasted for 34 years and I am proud of them. My fiancé does not wanna Dance with his mom because she is not his birth mom. Even though the step mom has been in the family for more than his mom was before she passed away he doesn’t feel that it’s right and I wanna respect that. So then today my father-in-law to be said he was getting back surgery but wanted to be ready to dance with me at the wedding but if I’m not dancing with my own father I don’t feel that it’s right to dance with my father-in-law and honestly I’m not a traditionalist so I’m throwing a lot of traditions out the window how do I go about telling him Dance with his mom because she is not his birth mom. Even though the step mom has been in the family for more than his mom was before she passed away he doesn’t feel that it’s right and I wanna respect that. So then today my father-in-law to be said he was getting back surgery but wanted to be ready to dance with me at the wedding but if I’m not dancing with my own father I don’t feel that it’s right to dance with my father-in-law and honestly I’m not a traditionalist so I’m throwing a lot of traditions out the window how do I go about telling him.

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Latest activity by Rebecca, on June 3, 2020 at 11:14 PM

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Courtney · on June 3, 2020 at 3:48 PM
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I’d just let everyone know you’re forgoing formal parent dances. You can have a dance with your father in law on the dance floor (same with your dad or his step mom) without the spotlight.
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Stacey · on June 3, 2020 at 3:53 PM
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He honestly might just mean dancing with you in general at the wedding? Like, not a special slow dance. At any rate, I would just tell both sets of parents that you are forging many traditions, including the parents dances, and leave it at that. No need to explain why. We are not doing them either, and have already told our parents so that their expectations are appropriate.
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Elizabeth · on June 3, 2020 at 5:02 PM
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I agree with everyone else - it shouldn't be a big deal. I'd just tell them you're skipping all of them and move on.
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Leslie · on June 3, 2020 at 6:21 PM
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I would say the same thing- he’s looking forward to dancing at your wedding. While you and your spouse are doing you first dance, your parents as well as his father and step mom can join you for 2nd dance. Not with them but they join so you can honor them all.
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Anna · on June 3, 2020 at 7:19 PM
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I was just thinking the same thing.
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Rebecca · on June 3, 2020 at 11:14 PM
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It's your wedding. You make the decisions about what you want to do and what you don't want to do. You tell people, politely, once, and then you don't discuss it. It's not about them, it's about you and your fiance. Don't justify it, don't defend it, just say, "this is what we are doing. Full stop."
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