fat bridesmaid- concerns and shoes

Im convinced bridesmaid dresses dont really look great on anyone. In my friends wedding last month, I looked wider than I am because of the way the straps were. It made my shoulders look VERY broad.

As far as shoes go, I would ask her first what she would prefer but gold ones with a pink dress would look very nice. I tend to wear higher heels, (im pretty short also), because I think they make my legs look longer.

Dont be too hard on yourself. No one is going to laugh at you at all and I'm sure your going to look amazing!

Well, you have a choice. You can either suck it up and support your friend, or quit.

I say suck it up. No one will laugh at you. They may talk about you, but they'll also be talking about the chick wearing the inappropriately tight dress with hooker shoes. People talk. You can't control that.

Besides, people should be focused on the bride, not the bridesmaid.

As for the shoes, yes, most show she there's walking. I would ask the bride about shoes, though. However, nude shoes go well with pastel.

Ask your friend on the shoes. She may have a preferance. As for your looks, I'm sure it doesn't look as bad as you feel. We are all harder on ourselves. I highly doubt people will laugh at you. Chin up!!

Don't be so hard on yourself, the dress, hair and shoes sound pretty and I'm sure you'll look great! Get dolled up and have fun! I like the idea of nude shoes but gold should work as long as your jewelry/accessories are gold as well. Nude would go with either gold or silver. No one will laugh at you, put those thoughts out of your head.

I cannot imagine any adult having the poor taste of laughing at someone's appearance. Carry yourself with pride - you are clearly a wonderful person or the bride would not have asked you to be her bridesmaid. Maybe you won't look like a super model, but really, who does?

I've been there girl. Like super tight dress, sweat soaking through every part if it, 5 inch heels that I literally could not stand in without my legs going all wobbly on me. It sucks. But honestly, nobody will be paying attention to you. Just the bride and groom so suck it up, smile and be there for your girl. Then just drink and party and you won't care about a thing.

For my sister in laws wedding I spent the prior months using sun in and guess what after the wedding I was look at pictures I had ORANGE hair like orange orange. 5yrs on no one has really cared, no one said crap on the day and except for pictures I really don't remember it.

I know you'll probably gawk at this suggestion, but do you want to post your pic here? Get some support from us before you have to wear it in front of a huge group? Probably not and I totally get that, but worth a shot! I'd be willing to give a pep talk

Also, coming from someone who was just where you feel you are (I just lost some weight) I totally know how you're feeling. I felt the same way about my engagement photos, being a guest at a friend's wedding, and attending a family event with my FH. Nothing feels good on you, you're self-conscious, and you're worried about what people are thinking.

But let me tell you this -- self-confidence (even if it's fake) can go a LONG way to convincing people you're awesome and that you look awesome. Wear the shit out of that dress. Get some shoes you love, some jewelry you're excited to rock ... do your make up, your hair, glam yourself up and wear that dress like there is no tomorrow.

Who cares what they think? If YOU let yourself feel good, then you'll look good ...

... and, what everyone else said ... they'll be more focused on your friend as the bride than you even if you feel like all eyes will be on you and how "terrible" you think you look.

As for shoes, it's totally fine if you can see them. Ask your friend what her preference is, and then go find the best damn pair of shoes you can and rock it.

Good luck!

My MOH is a proud #FatBabe activist and she looked beautiful on my wedding day.

So will you. Carry yourself with pride and remember that everyone will be looking at that bride, not you.

My dress is a size 24. If I can rock a formal dress, so can you! I'm a size 24-26 in street clothes.