Farewell Breakfast at Hotel, how did you handle?

I suggest just giving an educated guess, plus 5. Unless they are charging you by the guest, which in that case, I've got nothin'.

Similar situation. I was planning on putting a little piece of paper in the invitations for those who plan on staying over that invites them and has them contact me if they would like to attend. If you already sent out your invitations could you email or call those who booked a room inviting them and to see if they plan on attending? If you make it sound more formal and not a casual drop by if you feel like it you can at least get a better number.

We did an evite for the morning after breakfast and night before dinner because not everyone was invited. It worked pretty well, I think.

I think evite is definitely the way to go for this if your invitations have already gone out! The only thing I would ask is what time your breakfast is? I had a friend who did this and half the people didn't show because they had partied too hard the night before (luckily it was just a reservation number, not a catered event).

We sent a paperless post, so +1 to the suggestion for an evite or other virtual invitation.

I like the evite/paperless post idea!

I was a bridesmaid and my hubby and I stayed the night at the hotel venue (no kids as of this time). We very much enjoyed the wedding, the food and booze. We crashed and planned on sleeping in until checkout time (we paid for the room ourselves). Our phone began to ring at 8:00am. It would not stop ringing until we answered it and spoke into the receiver. A farewell breakfast was being hosted by the Bride and Groom and everyone who stayed at the hotel was expected to have their hair combed, clothes on, and starving at 9:00am. Nope. We were still trying to figure out where we were.

The morning after, leave your guests alone. Enjoy YOUR time alone.

Our venue includes a breakfast for up to 30 people the next day, and it's $35/pp after 30. We really don't have it in our budget to invite everyone to the breakfast, so we are going to start with those who were invited to the rehearsal dinner. If they didn't spend the night at the venue, I'll have to see who did and extend a separate, private invitation to those we are closest to. But the hotel offers breakfast either way, it's not like anyone who isn't invited to the included breakfast won't be able to eat! They'll just have to pay their own way.

Kathleen S - that's hilarious and totally my worst case scenario!

I only want to provide breakfast for those that feel like showing up that morning, without any pressure to anyone who doesn't! We do pay by person. I'm going to consider the evite/paperless post as an option for the people staying at the hotel!

Thank you everyone!

I dont think this will help you now but we had it as part of our rsvp with our invitation.

We will be having one the morning after our DW. Since we are doing the RSVPs for the wedding through our wedding website, we will create seperate events for the breakfast and the welcome dinner the night before. We're using appycouple and they have a neat feature where you can filter which events are visible to whom based on your guest list. We will insert a card with the instructions and the link to the wedding website in lieu of an RSVP to be sent back and can customize what each guest sees. I actually think we will invite all our guests to all events since our wedding is fairly small but I like the option of being able to collect RSVPs for each event separately and also to be able to describe them and avoid situations like Kathleen mentioned. Both our welcome dinner and next day breakfast will be completely optional and very laid back and we want our guests to know this.

We invited by word of mouth only since there's only 20-25 we want there. FMIL is hosting it at her house, so we will just bring in donuts and breakfast sandwiches from a restaurant in town (not self-catered). A phone call worked just as well for us. Probably poor etiquette, looking back now.