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Tianna
Just Said Yes November 2019

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Tianna, on September 14, 2019 at 1:15 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5
Hey everyone, I’m having a destination wedding in my husbands country. The tickets to this island are extremely cheap, typically $400 max for a round trip. We are planning on providing accommodations for family as well for days around the wedding. My family is quite wealthy from owning many businesses and they take many trips and own extravagant houses etc. my cousins wedding cost a good 80000, I know they aren’t broke. My entire family including my grandparents on my fathers side have refused to come to my wedding stating it’s expensive and they can’t come up with the funds. I know it’s a destination wedding, but how my family spends money it’s not a secret they have no issues traveling to extravagant places on vacation. How do I get past this? My feelings are honestly just extremely hurt and even my entire wedding party has backed out with this excuse. At this point it’s a wedding with my parents and my moms mom, and my husbands family and friends. I feel like I have no support

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Latest activity by Tianna, on September 14, 2019 at 6:52 PM
  • Futuremrs.1
    Savvy June 2022
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    I'm so sorry that's happening to you. I definitely understand because I live on a beautiful Caribbean island but my FH is from the states. Since I'm moving there the wedding is going to be here and a lot of his close friends and family can't make it. What we decided is to still have it here with my family and have a small less formal second reception with his family and close friends over there. Once we talked to his parents about it they readily said the will cover most of the expenses for that second reception. Also through YouTube we're going to live stream our ceremony.

    I know it's difficult but I suggest you to find close friends that really want to be there and that will support you and help you that day. Enjoy it because it's gonna be the start of an amazing life with your husband and don't worry about who isn't there, love and enjoy the company of those who proved to be real friends and it's going to be the best day of your life regardless this situation.
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  • Ingrid
    VIP October 2020
    Ingrid ·
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    I'm going through the same thing. But, I've come to the conclusion that who's meant to be there will be there. And at the end of the day its about us and our happiness. Focus on those that love you enough to be there and celebrate your love. Enjoy the intimate experience between you and your soon to be husband. Its their loss but your gain in realizing who and what's really important.
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
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    I would invite some of your friends who didn’t make the cut for your guest list initially since you had to invite your family. All families have their problems, don’t try not to take it personally. If they don’t want to come, it’s their loss. It sounds as if you have a really amazing weekend planned!
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  • Soon2BSmith
    Expert October 2020
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    Have you talked to them about the actually estimated cost? Maybe they are thinking it will be more based on how much they usually spend when traveling.

    You can always have 2 receptions. One back at home, then you can display photos and the video from your original wedding and reception.

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  • Tianna
    Just Said Yes November 2019
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    We did talk about cost, and I did have a reception back home that my parents paid for that no one but my grandparents came to. Unfortunately I don’t think it’s about the money I think it’s just that they don’t care
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