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Just Said Yes May 2021

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Kimberly , on July 21, 2020 at 10:16 AM

Do you have to invite people just because there family ?,Even if you don't really speak to them... i wanted to add a little more information on why i'm asking this question. My mom for the sake of my father is trying to force me to invite my dad's siblings ( 2 sisters 1 brother plus my uncles wife...

Do you have to invite people just because there family ?,Even if you don't really speak to them...

i wanted to add a little more information on why i'm asking this question. My mom for the sake of my father is trying to force me to invite my dad's siblings ( 2 sisters 1 brother plus my uncles wife ) ... they were never really around when i was young and even now i haven't seen or spoken to any of them in 2 years.

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Master October 2022
Jana · on July 21, 2020 at 12:44 PM
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You and fiance decide who you want to attend. No one else gets a say unless they are paying for the wedding.
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Rebelle Fleur · on July 21, 2020 at 1:10 PM
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You don’t have to, but will inviting those 4 people really make a huge difference? If they are coming with good energy and intentions I don’t see why not. They are your family after all.
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VIP August 2020
· on July 22, 2020 at 2:23 PM
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I tend to agree that you should only invite who you want to, but anyone who's paying gets a little bit of a say in the non-ceremony parts.
My parents are paying for >90% of the wedding, his are paying for the rest. My parents have opinions, but they understand that this is not their wedding. His parents have a harder time with boundaries. This was especially true in regards to the guest list. There was drama and will probably be more in the future, but eventually we agreed on a number of people my fmil could invite. My fiancé told her that she could choose whether to leave off friends or relatives. (He and his brother suggested edits to her original list to make it easier.)
If your parents' list starts to get out of control, I would recommend going that route. It makes kicking people off the list seem like less of a personal insult.
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