Family

This was totally me too. i wanted to keep in budget and that meant sacrificing some things but it is what it is, you just have to stand your ground and say this is what you want and can afford

View Quoted Comment I truly don't get why everything is so dramatic..of course another sibling is getting married too and they are being super over the top but they expect everyone else to pay for it too.

We dealt with (prevented) this by doing all of the planning and paying for everything ourselves and not sharing details with anyone who didn't need them.

You have a long way to go before your wedding date so I recommend getting ahold of this now, so you don't have 14 more months of stress. Don't bring up your wedding plans with anyone but your FS. If someone else brings it up, practice being non-committal and changing the subject.

I literally just tell them to get over it and keep it to themselves. However, I have a family dynamic where boundaries are respected and I know that isnt the case for everyone. Luckily our families are pretty laid back and easy going, but there were definitely some hard feelings from my husbands sister when we announced we werent including any family in our wedding parties. I just told her that I think it is more important to spend the day with my friends. I was sorry if it hurt her feelings but I wasnt going to entertain any further discussions about it. I havent heard anything from her since.

View Quoted Comment This is exactly how we handled it too. Unless the person had to know something (like what time to be there or where we were meeting to get ready) we didn’t share details with anyone. “You’ll see when you get there” was our answer to anyone we knew would make something out of nothing.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree with Maggie, this is how my fiance and I handle it.

Are they contributing financially? If not, they have no say or judgement. Someone questioned me the other day about flowers and I said I have it handled. Basically, butt out in a nice way.

Stop sharing details with them. If they ask questions you can say “you’ll see!” or “that’s a surprise.”