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Jessica
Savvy December 2020

Family wedding

Jessica, on October 28, 2019 at 8:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
My fiance's cousin (whom he isn't really close to) got engaged. His parents got an invite which said it was for 2 people (his parents) and my fiance thought he wasn't invited which is fine. His cousins wedding is now 2 weeks away. Recently we had lunch with one of his aunt's and we were asked where we would be staying (wedding is 2 hrs away from his home) so we said we were not invited. So that aunt went told her sister (cousins mom) and then the bride went ahead and text messaged my future in laws stating my fiance was invited all along and wanted to know if he was coming and that she made a "mistake" when sending out invites. Are we obligated to invite them to our wedding? I mean bride didn't reach out to my fiance and he is a grown up to even try to talk to him directly and instead tip toed with my future mother in law (whos an angel and dislikes conflict lol) To us it's like yeah right now we got a pitty invite lol because they got caught? Lol Also, they invite my fiance alone knowing he's engaged? To us it works out as now we don't feel obligated to invite them either lol but the gesture to me was like whatever 🙄 lol what do you ladies think?

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Latest activity by Kiley, on October 29, 2019 at 12:31 PM
  • Shelby
    Expert November 2020
    Shelby ·
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    Hmm, well your technically not obligated to invite anyone to your wedding. I also would not go to there wedding though even now just because you weren’t invited in the first place so they probably don’t really want you there now either..
    whichever choice you decide I give you luck!
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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
    Alejandra ·
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    If you didn’t want to invite them in the first place, don’t feel like you have to just cuz they pity-invited ONE of you lol. I wouldn’t.
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  • Suzie
    Super October 2021
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    Agreed. Two weeks out? Yea, no lol.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Even if you were invited originally, you’re not
    obligated to invite someone to your wedding just because you were invited to theirs.
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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
    Cassandra7 ·
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    I don't think either of you have actually been invited. You don't mention anything, however round-about, about her inviting you. And his "invitation" was second-hand, announced to his mother--when all the bride had to do was phone another number and ask him in person. So. Rumor says he's invited. Rumor doesn't mention you. I wouldn't dream of going.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Nope, not obligated.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    You're under no obligation to invite anyone to your wedding, so don't worry too much! It was incredibly rude for them to not invite you with your FH, so just for that I would feel even less obligated to invite them

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  • Kiley
    Expert November 2019
    Kiley ·
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    Don't attend theirs and don't feel obligated to invite them to yours.

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