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Mariana
Devoted October 2019

Family Trouble...

Mariana, on September 26, 2019 at 4:30 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5
(Sorry, long post but had to vent) I'm in a no talking term with my parents. As the bride, I've been crying my eyes out since Saturday night when a series of events unchained. We've had our differences, my parents and me, and they've always been really strict and closed-minded on myself since I was little. Well, needless to say, I've never had that complete bond of mother/father/daughter a normal person could have because of so many humiliations and comparisons they've done to me and with me. I've never trusted them enough because of their constant judgement, and sometimes it's uncomfortable for the 3 of us to show each other love. I have an older brother who's been the only person in my instant family to always be by my side encouraging me into being and doing better, but he lives in U.S. now so they're in full mode towards me. If you read my dress post some months earlier, you have an idea at how my mom's attitude is towards me in wanting me to always be the perfect daughter... This weekend, we invited them to hang out just the 4 of us. Sort of like a double dating term and it was going so perfect, I couldn't believe thanks to my FH I was actually having a good moment and memory with them as an adult, until they both started humiliating and shaming me after 2 months on not getting on time for my registry radiologic technologist exam due to construction on the highway (My FH and me were unaware). My dad was tipsy, so he went full shaming and reprimanding mode to a level that my mom stopped and started asking him to shut up, and even my FH was telling him and me to shut up since I was having a nervous breakdown while trying to defend myself. Right now, it's been since that day that we haven't talked. Today I called my mom to ask her about contact details of my judge and she just outbursted and started talking about how a wedding SHOULD be done (referring to our personal details as the written vows and all that) and how late I was, that I'm so irresponsible, and all that comes with that. I'm on the edge of another nervous breakdown right now because I feel I won't get anything right, and their constant shaming just doesn't help. I'm on the verge of running away and canceling everything here.

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Latest activity by Maude, on September 27, 2019 at 4:53 PM
  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    They sound like my parents: toxic and should be left at a distance. I'm so sorry. That's not the way people who care about you should behave.

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  • Mariana
    Devoted October 2019
    Mariana ·
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    My brother when he met my sister in law, they lived away from our family and her family because of that. They had my first ever niece with, and two months later instantly moved to U.S. EXACTLY because of them. Because they wanted to keep them at a safe/resoectable distance to let them create their own home in their own way. He's been trying to convince me to do the same ever since. Thank you for that, and I'm so sorry you have/had/experienced the same issue. It hurts way too much.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
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    Smiley sad i know what it feels like to have parents that just.. always seem to know how to push your buttons. THE LESS INTERACTION WITH THEM, THE BETTER.

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  • Mariana
    Devoted October 2019
    Mariana ·
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    It really hurts me to admit it but I feel a weight off my shoulders whenever I haven't talked to them in a while or I'm in my home with my FH. I can be myself, take things at my own pace and know he won't judge my position. They just want everything done in my life by tomorrow, and it's always been like this 😔 I'm sorry to hear that too but you're right, sometimes the less interaction the better.
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  • Maude
    Savvy June 2020
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    I am SO sorry. I truly understand. Prayers sent your way. Focus on you and your boundaries. There is no reason to allow that toxicity to ruin your happiest life events.
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