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Super October 2020

Family table dilemma

Emma, on August 7, 2020 at 12:15 PM Posted in Planning 0 24
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So my immediate family is to big to put at one table (parents, 5 siblings, 3 sister in-laws/plus ones, and 4 niece/nephews) I believe our tables can fit 8-10 people each. How would you go about seating with this? I was thinking putting my parents, siblings and their significant others at the same table and the kids (13, 9, 9 , and almost 2) at the table right beside them. The other option would be to put them all at 2 rectangular tables pushed together instead of the one round. I do not yet have confirmation that one of my sisters, her plus one, and her 2 kids will be there or not. So once I find that out I’ll really be able to decide but for now I’m trying to figure out what to do if they all come. The problem is I really wanted to just do round tables

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Latest activity by Hanna, on August 7, 2020 at 4:22 PM
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    Super October 2020
    Emma ·
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    Oh! I really want to keep the tables closer to 8 people per table because of covid
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  • Mindy
    Super November 2020
    Mindy ·
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    We’re doing rounds as well but we’re only putting six people per round.
    I would not advise putting the kids at a separate table from their parents unless you’re having a kids area.
    I know my FH’s family is too large for one table so I put his mom, stepdad and the four kids at one table and his dad will probably sit with my parents. His brother is in the party so he’ll be at the head table with us. Don’t stress over seating until you have the rsvps back. Rough draft if you’d like but know it’s going to change once you get the final headcount.
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  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
    Jessica ·
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    I would split them between two round tables and keep the kids with their parents, especially the two year old. As a parent, I’d be stressing about my kids eating/behaving if they weren’t seated with me and I’d probably just move to their table.
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    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    You can do round tables. Put one family with your parents, another family at a nearby table with whichever close relatives fit best to fill the seats. They are only for the duration of dinner and then everyone can get up and go where they want after.
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    For our wedding, we sat my parents with their friends. My brother, his girlfriend, and daughter sat at a different table with some people his own age (family friends our age).
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  • Stacey
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    Stacey ·
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    At a certain point, large tables become too big for everyone to socialize anyway...they can really only comfortably hear the 8-10 people closest to them, so personally I would still opt for two round tables rather than one huge one. And TBH the 2-year old can't sit separately from his/her parents at that age.

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  • Hanna
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    Hanna ·
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    Due to Covid, I would try to group the tables according to whoever already lives together in the same household, to the extent possible. I would definitely put the kids with their parents and not at a separate kids table

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    Jana ·
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    Definitely don't put kids at their own table without supervision. Keep them with parents.
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    Maggie ·
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    Yes, all of this. Household group = table.

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    2 of my siblings, along with their significant others and 2 nephew will be coming in from out of state and staying at my moms house, which my 17 year old brother also lives at. So doing by “household” would basically exclude one sibling and her 2 kids
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    Emma ·
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    I’ve thought about doing 6 or 7 people per table instead of 8. Which would technically make things easier to break up
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    I wouldn't have the children sit by themselves. I would try your best to group them by household. If you have to have less people at each table then so be it.

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    Emma ·
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    The 2 year old is the 13 year olds sibling so it wouldn’t be to big of a deal, I made sure with the parents. If we did the kids table it would be right beside the family table
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    They wouldn’t Technically be by themselves. The kids table would be right beside the family table and the 13 year old would be getting some cash for keeping an eye on them
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    Veronica ·
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    Even if they are right next to each other, I think the parents wouldn't be able to enjoy themselves as much because they would have to police their children. A two-year-old isn't going to be able to handle sitting separated from their parents.

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    Emma ·
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    He could because his 13 year old sister (who would be getting some cash if we decide to do a kids table) would be able to watch him. I’ve cleared it with their parents already
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    Emma ·
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    Some 2 year olds might not be able to but he can. Plus his sister (13) would be there. The kids are very very well behaved.
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    Emma ·
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    Your saying their parents would be able to enjoy themselves more with their kids sitting with them? I feel like it would be the opposite
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    Veronica ·
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    I'm saying that if there is an issue the parents will then have to get up from their table and go over to the kids' table to deal with whatever issue it might be. Whereas if they are seated together, they go just handle the issue very quietly without having to get up and everything else. I also don't think I would leave it up to a 13-year-old to babysit a 2-year-old.

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    Hanna ·
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    Even if the relatives in question will be traveling from out of state and staying at your mom's house, I can only assume that they would still want to take proper precautions during their stay with your folks, such as wearing masks in the house, trying to limit shared bathroom use, not hugging each other, etc. I would still recommend grouping by actual household since your wedding is in October, which is very soon. If you're concerned about one sibling being left out, then maybe consider having more tables and limiting to 6 at a table--that way you can split up even more. Aside from the issue of supervision, having a bunch of young kids at one table--several of whom will have traveled from out of state--just doesn't seem like a wise idea right now. Best of luck whatever you decide

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