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Family Table Assignments

Courtney, on April 20, 2021 at 9:45 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 7

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Hey guys! If you have divorced family members (parents/grandparents) do you go out of your way to avoid seating them with each other?

I'm way ahead of time for thinking of these things, but I'm a planner at heart and like to get a jump start with people that I know will be at the wedding like my parents, grandparents, and siblings.

My mom and dad are divorced and remarried and get along okay, but I'm not sure if it would be better to put them at their own tables with their sides of the family? My mom's parents are also divorced and remarried, and while they can be civil they don't really get along well so I wasn't sure how that would go.

Basically at one table it would be my mom and step-dad, mom's four parents, step-dad's mom and possibly great-aunt if she's still kicking by then.

At my dad's table it would be him, my step mom, his parents, her parents, and her sister and BIL (dad has 4 siblings so they get a table to themselves).

I'm more concerned about shoving all of the grandparents with the parents and wasn't sure if that's how others usually set their tables up.

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Latest activity by Michelle, on April 24, 2021 at 1:10 PM

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Katie · on April 20, 2021 at 10:16 AM
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Hi Courtney! I agree with not having divorced couples at the same table. My husband’s parents are divorced and although very cordial, we did mom, best man/husband’s brother and his family at a table. We had dad and stepmom and his parents (paternal grandparents) at another table. Hope this helps ❤️
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Taylor · on April 20, 2021 at 10:20 AM
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My fiancé’s parents are split and, while civil, we are going to opt to separate them. We’re doing similar to your thought process! One table with his moms family (her, her fiancé and his two daughters, her dad and stepmom, my fiancé’s sister and her date, etc.) and one table for his dad’s family (him, his date, his parents, his sister and her daughter, etc.). We felt that was best case scenario for us, but you know these people best! If your gut says separate them, separate them!
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SLY · on April 20, 2021 at 12:40 PM
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FH's parents are divorced and we're not seating them together, even though they're nice to one another.
FMIL will be sitting with her sisters and her bf. FFIL will actually be at the king's table with us and the bridal party since he's the best man.
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Tina · on April 21, 2021 at 3:17 AM
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My husband his parents split and they don’t get along well. They on 2 separate tables. There’s no grandparents alive on either side so for his mom it’s her, husband’s step dad, his 2 kids and their friends. For his father it’s him, my husband’s step mom, their kid, my husband’s sister and her daughter. I had his mom take care of that side. I wanted no part in that lol. I say if they are divorced to split them. They in the same room if they want to talk they can walk over and talk. That’s the way I see it.
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Courtney · on April 21, 2021 at 9:07 AM
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Thanks guys!
I guess my big concern is not having weird tension at the tables during dinner.
I've got just the right odd number of family members so my tables don't work perfectly number wise (leaving behind one or two extra chairs per table) unless I mix my different sides of the family. Otherwise I'll have to increase the number of tables I need and that thought drives me insane lol
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Fred · on April 24, 2021 at 1:05 PM
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Hello Courtney.
Mine are divorced and they have a partner.
, I'm putting them at their own tables with their partner and their sides of the family.
They can't stand each other but, much to my surprise, they tolerated each other very well for the purposes of my sister's wedding and they put their own feelings aside for her.
Putting them at the same table is something that has never crossed my mind because of the partners.
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Michelle · on April 24, 2021 at 1:10 PM
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Can every group have their own table to avoid interaction? Then fill the rest of the seats with those who get along.
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