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on January 4, 2020 at 1:03 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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My FH & I both have a lot of family drama . He has a son who is 7 years old from a previous relationship who he wants to be his best man . But the mother of his child won't let him be apart of that because of a race issue and she doesn't like me at all . Myself , have three other kids from a previous relationship ( two girls & a boy ) who I also want them to be apart of my special day but the father of my children won't allow it or take it into consideration . My FH was adopted into a family but has communication with his biological family . He wants to invite both but he don't want it to be an awkward situation . And for me ? I have two sisters but I only want one to be apart of my special day . My other sister we went through a rough patch which can never be forgiven in my eyes ----- Can someone help ?

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Latest activity by Kristen, on January 4, 2020 at 1:27 PM

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Caytlyn · on January 4, 2020 at 1:08 PM
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Why is it up to the children’s other parents whether or not they participate? Do neither of you have custody?

Invite both, it’s only awkward if they make it that way. If they haven’t spent much time together, that could be a great experience.
If you’re fine with never having a relationship with your sister, don’t invite her.
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Kelsi · on January 4, 2020 at 1:15 PM
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It’s sad that your exes won’t let the children participate.

I have a rough relationship with my mother and my dad has a rougher relationship with her than I do. In the end, I bit the bullet and invited her and shut my dad down from arguing with me on it. I didn’t want to regret her not being there or making it hard on my brother (not my dads son).
I get not inviting people. I’m not inviting an aunt because she’s been in and out of rehab several times and hasn’t tried to make amends. I can’t trust her to be sober that day because I haven’t spoken to her in years. But I’m willing to burn that bridge and upset my family for not inviting her. Is it worth those chances for you to not invite your sister?
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Gen · on January 4, 2020 at 1:15 PM
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I was literally about to say exactly this in all ways hahaha
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Kristen · on January 4, 2020 at 1:27 PM
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I agree with this post. Unless there is a custody issue neither ex can disagree with it but legally cannot stop by. I would ensure the date is a day you have custody. One of my good friends got married and both of her stepsons were the bestmen. She does not have a good relationship with her husband's last ex but their son was there a part of the wedding. You do not need their blessing and just have them a part of it.
In regards to your sisters invite who you want. You do not have a relationship with the other then do not invite and your FH should be allowed to invite both sets of parents as they will need to be cordial and accept it. Good luck.
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