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Just Said Yes October 2013

Family schedules birthday party overlapping my bridal shower

Cali Bride 05, on September 21, 2013 at 4:21 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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My wedding is 3 weeks away, so I'm looking for advice here since I'm trying really hard not to be THAT BRIDE. My bridal shower is next week, and today I received an invite from my cousin to his daughter's 2nd birthday party, for the same day as my bridal party, beginning during my bridal shower. My shower is co-Ed, kid friendly... let's just say I did my best to make sure this was an all-family event. The biggest kicker is that my cousin's family is the biggest of my Aunties and Uncles, and if their brothers and sisters leave during my shower, my party will be half empty. I'm really upset, because I'm only going to have one shower, but I'm trying to be understanding because this is my cousin's 3rd daughter and I know they just want to celebrate her birthday like they do their other daughters. But I'm hurt and I'm upset at imagining the half empty bridal shower. And my emotions are heightened because the wedding is soon. Any help or put-it-in-perspective advice is much appreciated! Thanks, WW community!

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Latest activity by Cali Bride 05, on September 21, 2013 at 11:22 PM

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Stephanie ♥ · on September 21, 2013 at 4:36 PM
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It sucks, but I think you need to remember that just as you only get one bridal shower, your cousins only get to celebrate their daughter's birthday once also.

I think this is one of those situations where bride brain has taken over & in reality we need to put our big girl panties on, build a bridge, & get over it ;]
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Tamika · on September 21, 2013 at 6:55 PM
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A 3 yr old won't know which day their birthday is celebrated on. So I don't think it's to much to ask not to schedule two family functions for the same date and time.
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Private User · on September 21, 2013 at 6:58 PM
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I would be upset too, to be honest. That child will not remember what day their birthday was celebrated on, but you will remember very detail about your shower.
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Laura · on September 21, 2013 at 7:24 PM
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Well, you say you did your best to make it kid friendly, etc. meaning that you most likely planned your own shower. I'm not even going to start about that...

Your shower should really only be a few hours long, 2-3 hours MAX. I think that people will have the patience to stay for the whole 2 hours. Unless you've managed to make it into an all-day event, in which case people would leave early anyway as no one wants to be at a shower for more than 2-3 hours.

Really your cousin probably wasn't even thinking when she planned the birthday party for that day, as believe it or not, not everyone is constantly thinking about your wedding or your wedding parties. If you're really upset, call her and tell her the situation. I'm sure she'll knock the time back an hour or two to not interfere. But don't phrase it as if it's going to interfere with your gift receiving time, and don't phrase it as if she has done you a personal wrong.
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Cali Bride 05 · on September 21, 2013 at 11:22 PM
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That all does help, thanks!!

And my bridesmaids planned my shower. When they told me what they planned, I gave them money for a jumper, so the kids would have fun too.
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