Family pto Issues

I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your brother! He deserves that time off. I hope his employer has a change of heart!

That is frustrating. Is it possible for him to call in and take a sick day?

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately, his company puts every PTO request into a system and keeps track of even the declined requests. So if he were to call in, the system could match his call in to a declined PTO request and flag him for disciplinary action.

What about unpaid time off?

View Quoted Comment I don’t think that will fly either, as their citing staffing concerns as the reason for denial.

So it sounds like he can beg for a day without pay or quit

View Quoted Comment That’s pretty much where we are, which is why I feel that there is very little to be done at this point.

Sounds like he needs another job. If you don't mind what does he do??? It's Draconian

It sounds like he needs a new job.

That is completely awful.

Congratulations and 🍀‼️

So, what company is this? Maybe a general call-out on the internet by the public (meaning us strangers) about their policies concerning leave time in general would embarrass them enough to review their practices. I'm not a big "cause" person but this is one that would be worth my support.

He should call in sick and hope for the best. I know better than most how difficult it is to find quality skilled labor. Actually it's hard to find unskilled labor who will show up for work. He might get a first warning unless they let it go. Just have him avoid a situation that can be interpreted as insubordination such as saying I'm not working that day. He could also try escalating to higher level mgmt or HR to find a solution. Sometimes mid-mgmt will just follow policy and not take care of their people. Big mistake on their part. He should consider other employers but be careful about changing jobs right before the wedding and not having PTO time to start. I hope he can work it out.

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He is upper level security in an entertainment complex. But, like I said, there are multiple folks in the same position on each shift. Besides, if he only attended the ceremony, he'd be at work before 5:00pm and, thus, before the busy time of the day.

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NOT a good idea at all! At best it'll mark him as a pot stirrer, at worst could get him fired.

Wow, this sounds like a terrible company. I would just not show up and see what happens or find a new job.

View Quoted Comment That’s not really an option for him. He is a single dad. So I think the job security and decent pay is one of the things keeping him around.

I am so so sorry you're having to deal with this. I cannot even imagine how this must make you feel. I know this is pretty taboo, and I'd hate for you to potentially get your brother in trouble, but could you call his company and explain the situation? Maybe they'll be more sympathetic hearing it from you and how your brother is supposed to be giving you away. I know that's not the best advice, but if they're unwilling to hear your brother out, maybe you calling will help change their mind.

Has he reached out to any upper management and explained that it's for your wedding? I would have him re-submit the PTO or try to get in contact with a higher level of authority. If there are others who can cover him, this shouldn't be an issue. Especially if he is using Paid time off, he has earned those hours. We have the PTO system at my work along with PPTO (where we won't be pointed for absences).

Unfortunately , lots of places only recognize your own wedding as a must for time off. I never worked for a hospital that treated family weddings any differently from your dog's birthday or opening day of baseball season. They give days off according to coverage, not the reason you want it off, except your own wedding or surgery, or the actual day of death or funeral, for one of your immediate family. Stinks , but it is routinely that way and has been the 16 years I have worked.

That is very unfortunate! I can only imagine how stressed you are over this. Hopefully he’s able to work it out. Best of luck to you!