Family problems

I'm sorry you're going through this. Sisters can be tough. I'm having issues with mine now too. I hope things improve even the slightest soon. Hang in there!

Sorry to read about your situation. It's understandable you are hurt and desire for your family to be at your wedding. I am happy that you have someone who can still be the maid of honour. It's not what you wanted but you will still have others who are there to support you and help you celebrate this milestone

Similar situation for us (although not due to a major disagreement). Our good friend had planned on marrying us, being officient. We are having a no-kid wedding. We told him and everyone that when we got engaged (1 yr before wedding), put it on website, the whole nine... when my FH was talking to him 6 months out from wedding he brought it up as a reminder. At which point our friend responded that "if his kid can't come, he cant come. " so... after bargaining (offering to pay for child care, offering to pay to fly a family member out to watch his kid during ceremony....) and denial (he will change his mind...) and anger (how could he?!) .... and depression... we have now accepted his choice.

The thing about close friends and family is, we always want to include them no matter what... where as with others we are better about creating healthy boundaries.

In this case, your sister has made the choice. You asked her to be in your wedding, she accepted....and now changed her mind. That's her right to do... it's unfortunate and sad and seems unfair and hurtful... but it is her choice.

Go through the stages of all the feels... but ultimately, you will have to accept it, and plan for a Beautiful day surrounded by people who wouldn't miss it for the world... for the inconvenience... or for their bruised ego or pride.

Oh no!
Honestly it is kind of dumb for her not to be able to put aside the fact that you don't like her bf. I mean it's not like that part would hinder her capability as your MOH.
I hope that you guys can repair your relationship though.

This is your sisters issue. Not yours. While it hurts, you need to remain focused on the future and family you're creating. There is still time, she may change her mind.

Hey Adrienne! I’m so sorry that you are going through this with your sister.

Is your sister open to talking to you about what happened? Obviously, I don’t know the circumstances but would it help ease the tension to explain that you didn’t mean to hurt her feelings by revealing that you are not fond of her BF.

At the end of the day, she is your sister and hopefully letting her know just how much she means to you will help repair the rift in your relationship.

View Quoted Comment My sister is stubborn. And she should have already known that I didn't like her boyfriend as I've already stated that back on Easter. But now it's a big deal to her. I'm still willing to let her come to my wedding if she gets over this but I'm not letting her play a big role in my wedding anymore.

You still have a few months, is there any way you can repair things with your sister in that time?

I'm sorry you're dealing with this :/