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Kathy, on December 4, 2019 at 7:52 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I am on guest list for 2 weddings.

Wedding 1, Cousins (we are a close family) daughter where the whole family will be, or:

Wedding 2, Family friend and my daughter is standing up in it. I have known the family for 15+ years and 1 of my daughters best friends, (my daughter was actually asked to be in Wedding 1 but had to turn it down as she already accepted Wedding 2).

I am completely torn and don't know what the proper thing is. My issue is, am I expected to go to Wedding 2 because my daughter is standing up (that is my main issue I guess)

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Latest activity by Catherine, on December 5, 2019 at 2:17 PM

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Jasmine · on December 4, 2019 at 8:02 PM
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So are the weddings on the same day or too close together that you can't attend both?
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Kathy · on December 4, 2019 at 8:04 PM
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They are both same day
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on December 4, 2019 at 8:05 PM
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Ugh. Tough one. How does your daughter feel? I could see if your daughter is 30 years+ and totally fine going her own you could divide and conquer by you attending your cousin’s wedding. Otherwise, go with your daughter and you can tell your cousin you & your daughter were already invited, and accepted, the invite to the other wedding.
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Jasmine · on December 4, 2019 at 8:09 PM
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Oh wow. That's unfortunate. I agree with Pirate & 60s Bride. Talk to your daughter and see how she feels about it. If you already accepted the invite to the other wedding, I'm sure they would understand.
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Amber · on December 4, 2019 at 8:36 PM
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If they're near each other would it be possible for you to go to the ceremony for one and the reception for the other?
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Gabrielle · on December 5, 2019 at 6:59 AM
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I like this idea.

I would go to the wedding of the person I like more
Is it your daughter's friend that is getting married? It's not necessary to attend if your daughter is standing up. If it's your personal friend then I see how that would be a tough choice.
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Jennifer · on December 5, 2019 at 2:10 PM
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I agree with this one! If not, I would say go to the family wedding. Your daughter is representing your family at the family friend's wedding, so you will be the "face" of your family unit at the family wedding (horribly worded, I hope I made some sort of sense haha )

I would also send a gift to the couple whose wedding you are not attending!
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Catherine · on December 5, 2019 at 2:17 PM
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Ugh i'm sorry this is tough. i would say whichever invitation you received first is the one you should go with. or since your daughter is in the one wedding just let the others know you already confirmed attendance with a different wedding the same day. they will understand.
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