Family Opinions

Your family is out of line. "Family, it seems when this topic comes up, it hurts my feelings. How about those Marlins??"

And why in the world does your family know when you lost your virginity? Please begin to practice healthy boundaries or your marriage will suffer.

Your family is really mean for saying those things to you. He is your love. They don't need to understand it. Sometimes, when love is so strong and real, some people can't believe it. You're probably glowing with happiness and it's beyond their comprehension. It's not something your family needs to get. They aren't in the relationship. I find their comments to you to be very negative and close-minded. If any of my family members tried to tell me this, I wouldn't be speaking with them for a long time, but that's just me. Like MrsBdeG has stated, you can simply let them know that he's going to be your husband and they can either accept it, or you can cut them off. If people thought so badly of me and my FH, and they were VOCAL about it too, they wouldn't be at my wedding, no matter who they were. I am really sorry that they are behaving this way toward you. Things will look up when you disregard their comments and stay away from negativity. Don't involve any of the negative parties in the planning either. Who knows if some of them may want to sabotage plans.

I'm so sorry that this has happened...I know what it's like to be judged in this situation. My fiance and I have been together since we were 16 years old, although we dated people previously we were each other's first. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years and still going strong, I have had a few family members tell me "not to settle down" or "why not date other people" or "are you sure he is the one?" and it's not fun to listen to because it really does hurt hearing those words because you just want to be happy, but at the same time you don't want to disappoint any of your family members either (unfortunately you can't make everybody happy) so in order for your family to understand, there are some that might not choose to understand because for some people in my family they don't have an open mind to understand, for others maybe to ask them what it would be like if they were in your situation and for them to put themselves in your shoes then maybe they would understand how hurtful these words are to listen to. As for choosing a destination wedding versus a traditional wedding, GOOD FOR YOU! That's sound beautiful and romantic, and I wish you nothing but happiness on this journey to marriage!

Your family should be ashamed of themselves. Their words are awful! There's nothing wrong with marrying your first love. FH was my first serious boyfriend, and here I am getting ready to marry him!

It's not your job to "make them understand". You and FH should continue sharing in each other's happiness and love. If your family pays attention, hopefully they'll realize this is genuine, not infatuation. I wish you nothing but the best