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Family not getting along

Alicia, on October 1, 2019 at 12:24 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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Im new to this and maybe someone can help me me and my fiancé have been together for 2 years and we are getting married October 31st 2020 and my mom being very wishy washy on helping she will say she wants to then changes her mind about 2 weeks ago she told me she didn’t want to help if my fiancé’s mom was helping mind you that our parents have never met because my parents don’t want to and I explained to her that he is there only child if she was to help she should be allowed so my mom got mad at me and said my family will not come to my wedding and she will not come either so my future mother in law took me dress shopping and we found a beautiful gown and we both cried so she wanted to buy it for me and she did well a week later my mom got mad at me again and was upset I went with my fiancé’s mom and mad me feel terrible about it so we returned the dress to make my mom happy does anybody have any advice to help me because I am so stressed out and this isn’t even all of the story just a bit of it.

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Latest activity by karen, on October 1, 2019 at 9:57 AM

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I’m sorry you’re having to deal with all of this. It’s sounds like your mom is being a bit sensitive and selfish and unfortunately you can’t control other people, only yourself, so try to make yourself happy. If you really loved that dress, get the dress. Maybe your mom feels like your FMIL is “stepping on her toes,” so if you want to salvage things, plan some things with just your mom. If this isn’t the case, then keep moving whether your mom is along for the ride or not. Hope it gets better!
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Mrs. Bubba · on October 1, 2019 at 3:29 AM
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Stop letting your Mom ruin your experience. Is she going to pay for a 👰👗for you?

Imo: It sounds like she may be:
a. jealous of the fact that you’re getting married.
b. upset that you have a good relationship with another Mother figure.
c. unable to afford to help/participate and she’s taking it out on you.
d. feeling that she’s being replaced.
e. having some type of medical situation that’s manifesting by taking it out on you.
f. a 🥜 and you’re well rid of her.

I’m so sorry that you’re going through all this unnecessary stress. Moms are supposed to make your life easier.
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Caytlyn · on October 1, 2019 at 7:45 AM
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I understand that your mother is being difficult, but it doesn't sound like you're doing much to help the situation. If you're having difficulties between your mother and your FMIL, did it really seem like going wedding dress shopping with her and excluding your mom would be your best bet? I think you need to sit down and have a conversation with your mom about her problems with your FMIL and how they can be resolved. If she can bring real issues and real resolutions to the table, hear her out.
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karen · on October 1, 2019 at 9:57 AM
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Agreed. Sounds to me more that OP is pushing her mom out of the picture
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