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Jessica
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Jessica, on February 24, 2020 at 8:54 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5
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As yall know I'm getting married soon. My fiance's mother and sister do not like me. His brothers dont have a problem with me. I've tried talking to his sister to get to the bottom of this but she has no interest in getting to know me better. Now let me backtrack his sister has multiple sclerosis. She was loving with us for a few years. Which caused hell in our relationship but we're better now. She got her own place now.Yea I know when I tell people that I always get the samen1st response " shes not mad at you she is mad at herself because she doesn't know who she is with this disability " and then the awww factor wears off and I get " try and talk to her to see why she doesn't like you". Which I've done and she has no legitimate reason not to like me. The mom on the other hand changes her reasons for not liking me (she kinda lies alot). How do you handle this without beating a dead horse?

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on February 29, 2020 at 6:17 AM
  • Onya
    Expert October 2020
    Onya ·
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    Personally I️ think You need to put it in your fiancés hands. It’s his mom and sister. He should be your number one fan and trying to get to the bottom of it. Because he obviously loves you to marry you. Leave it in his hands and wash yours. When they are ready they will come around.
    Your fiancé has to think not only of the present but of the future once children are involved. Will they take things out on your children because they don’t like you? You just never know what sickness people have in them.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I honestly just want to try. I also would not go out of my way to welcome them into our homes. As the pp said this is really a job for your fiance to step in and talk to them. It sounds to me like they have their own issues so sometimes you fall in love with the person and maybe you do not get along with their in-laws. I think you have tried everything so there's not much else you can do. The ball is now in their Court.
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  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
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    I'm sorry I'm lost with the question. You cannot make someone like you. Your FH loves you and that's all that matters as long as they don't bring drama to your wedding so be it. They will either come around or their lost but unfortunately you cant make them like you. If you've tried to talk and that isn't working move on and love them from a distance.

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    If I were you, I'd stop trying to getting to the bottom of the situation. There are a few members of my FH's family who aren't fond of me, but it isn't my job to try to get to the bottom of anything. I know who I am, and I know I haven't done anything to these people. Them not liking me doesn't weaken me and FH's bond. We've been through so much together, we're too solid to be worried about a few who don't like us. FH's mom doesn't always treat me well, and how I see it is that if you're not going to speak to me nice, you're not welcome in our home and will have less time to spend with your grandkids. I do not take disrespect very well. Just love on your fiance and be happy with your bond. These other people will either come around and start opening up to you, or continue being distant or petty. Either way, hold your head high and focus on you and your fiance. All the bestSmiley heart

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  • Jennifer
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    My FH's sister hates me too. I've tried talking to her and my FH has had multiple conversations with her about it. Her problem isnt so much with me, just with how her brother spends most of his time with me. So really her problem is with my FH but she is just taking it out on me. He's tried making plans to hang out with her and inviting her over in the past before the big blowup but she always declined so it's not like my FH hasn't tried either. It's been over a year now of being iced out and disrespected by her and we are just over it at this point. We are done wasting our energy on it since she doesn't want to fix it.
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