Family members want to stay a week before wedding

LOLOLOL, no. "Sorry, we aren't hosting guests that week" is a good answer.

Honestly? Feelings may get hurt but you should you appreciate the offer however, you and FH aren't hosting anyone at your home for the wedding due to space or something of that nature. You can't just flat out say "you can't come here" but you need to put your foot down for your own sanity.

I do want to put out there- we appreciate the offer most definitely. But with work schedules and just planning and so many other things going on I just know it's going to be stressful.

"While we appreciate the offer, we've got it all taken care of."

As for her wanting to stay at your place ( which TBH is super weird since she's only his aunt IMO) and give her the names of some hotels in the area she can stay at. You can tell her no in regards to staying in your home.

I would decline in a very nice way. State you are booked that week with events for the wedding and work and you would not be able to give her the time to spend enjoyable time with her.

I thought so too- we have.. she complains about the prices. One is a little more high scale and the other is a best western. But we blocked off rooms so it's cheaper. Plus- she tried to tell others it's okay they can stay at our house while we're gone. Which it's not. We're leaving THAT day after the wedding. I don't want anyone at the house. It's just our space to go when family starts to come in.

With people like this, at some time you need to stand up to them, or she will continue to bulldoze her way over you for the rest of your life.

"Sorry, Aunt _____, but we are unable to accommodate guests the week before the wedding. I'm sure you will understand that it is a busy week for us. If you want to travel early, let us know and we can recommend a hotel. AirBnB might also work for you as you can rent a place with a kitchen,"

Yall need to be straight forward with her. "Im sorry but with the wedding and work we cant have anyone at our house before or after the wedding. I hope you understand but if you cant make it due to the hotels we understand."

Don't do it! My coworker got married two weeks after me. Had family there the whole week before. He was so stressed (can't imagine how the bride was). Several times he commented that I seemed so relaxed (I hosted no family)

I would have my FH be the one to explain no house guests to her since she is his aunt

NOPE. We basically said we will be too busy to be good hosts and would prefer time alone to prep ourselves.

Welcome. The Motel 6 is down the street. See ya at the wedding.

Girl, I feel you!! My FBIL and his gf just had a baby and it changed the whole family dynamic for us.. waited 15 hours for her to have the baby for me to not be able to see my nephew because they don't consider me an aunt. Not only that, but they let my FH in there and every who came there that day but "that was her wish for me not to be there." She has been angry at me since I got engaged. The aunt invited them to stay at our house as well. FH wanted a good relationship with them but I'm having a hard time with this. Very stressed and upset. I am going to have to say no. I can't do this.. just got a fantastic job and I'm not about to have them make me more stressed and pissed at the moment lol

This is your fiance's aunt? Explain your thoughts and feelings to him and ask him to handle it. His family, his responsibility. Don't create family drama if you don't need to.

BUT if he refuses to tell her no, then take it upon yourself to do it. Be polite, but be firm and be brief. And don't use phrases like "we don't want ..." or "we'd rather not ..." Pushy people see that as an opening. Say "we are not ..." or "we will not ..." And stick to whatever you tell her. If you give in even one time, she'll spend the rest of her life pushing her way into your home and your marriage whenever she decides she should be involved.

I'd explain that you unfortunately can not accommodate but you appreciate the offer to help

The aunt is the one being rude, here. First of all you and your FI need to be on the same page. You'll have to tell her sooner rather than later. Actually it should be your FI since it's his aunt. Don't make excuses, don't be waffly.

"Unfortunately we're not able to accommodate houseguests those weeks". End of story. Repeat frequently.

My in laws tried to pull this on us. They wanted to stay with us before and after. We firmly told them we had a lot to do and could not prepare our home to host guests.