Family member wedding same week!?

If they knew your date, I feel that is so incredibly rude to have their wedding so close to yours! But, not having a way around that, if you were already thinking of moving your wedding back, I would seriously consider that option. You won’t be as stressed having to go to a wedding less than a week before yours and the attention will be all on you.

View Quoted Comment I thought it was rude too. They have a reason for rushing theirs but I feel like the month before would have been better. I also feel like I'll need the weekend before to get stuff done and the wedding is 3 hours away. Others were like "oh that's such a good idea" so I wasn't sure if I was being a bridezilla

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I can see this perspective but may there is a reason behind this date that has nothing to do with the first wedding. I would only move the date if you two want to but not to accommodate others. People will still be excited for both weddings but I can see why you would be frustrated. Did she explained why she did her wedding closer to yours? I would just keep your date unless you want to move yours because of money as you said.

Honestly, I'd leave it. I think people aren't as likely to make a return trip as they are to extend am existing one.

I agree with pp, I would leave it. That was your date to begin with.

Personally I would change it because I wouldn’t want to feel like I was the “second wedding” that week. Some people might not be able to stay for both so I would separate it enough that people could do both. It was very rude of them to do that if they knew your date.

I think it’s rude for them to have it a week before yours when they knew the date even if it’s a special day to them ... I would not move the date unless you really wanted to. If it would make traveling easier for your family , then maybe keep it.

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I was thinking the same thing!

Have you booked other vendors? If so, you will have to make sure they are also available for a new date. I can’t believe they did that, how awful of them! I think expecting people to take a full week off for two weddings is a bit much, especially if you’re three hours away. Can FH talk to his cousin? If anyone should change a date, it’s them. I personally wouldn’t even attend a wedding six days before mine.

Also, have you sent out Save the Dates yet? You could always try to get the jump on them, and announce your wedding first so people already plan to attend yours. May be a bit petty, but honestly they’re in the wrong here, so I would go for it lol.

I’d honestly move the date if you could. I set mine over spring break thinking it’d be a great opportunity for family to take vacations, etc. I really thought people would take advantage of the excuse but only a small portion are... most are flying in just for the weekend. So you’re probably right it’s a lot to ask people to stay and most probably won’t (which means turning around and coming right back if they even will).