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Just Said Yes April 2022

Family-less (?) bride

Dana, on August 10, 2021 at 9:01 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 4

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How can I figure out how to plan for a second (mine) and first (his) wedding when I have really no family but he does...? We both want something special and unique to our very quirky personalities. He says he doesn't care about the wedding, he just wants to marry me. But I don't want to deprive him of a wedding (we could do a city hall thing, but should we...?) My first marriage was sweet and intimate, but we both had our family and friends there. I'm from down south and it'd be a lot to ask my friends to travel, as we are paying for this ourselves, but my fiance has grown up in upstate NY and has roots and long established relationships. And, honestly, I'd feel awfully lonely with no one, erring on that side because maybe people would travel, but I really want something special for him... I'd appreciate some suggestions. Thank you in advance!

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Latest activity by Maggie, on August 11, 2021 at 1:57 PM

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Anais · on August 10, 2021 at 9:47 PM
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Do you guys like to travel and/or have a special spot that’s close to your heart? You could always elope just the two of you. Find a spot you love, get a marriage license and officiant (or in most states get a friend ordained) and get married in a beautiful place!
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Michelle · on August 10, 2021 at 10:12 PM
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Decide what works best for you. Some people can’t imagine not having their closest friends and family (friends are closer than some relatives and are considered family in that case) and others don’t want anyone in attendance. You have to weigh out the pros and cons of each and get on the same page.
Guests regularly travel to weddings with no issues so that should not be a barrier if you want certain people in attendance.
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Samantha · on August 11, 2021 at 12:23 PM
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Ceremony by your family, reception the next weekend up by his family! (or vice versa)
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Maggie · on August 11, 2021 at 1:57 PM
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I wouldn't let your "lack" of a family stand in the way of his family attending if that's what he wants. But I would also listen to him and take him at his word if he says he would be happy with a courthouse ceremony. You both should communicate what your top few priorities are, really listen to each other, and then craft the compromise that works for you both.
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