Family issues

My mother and I have been disagreeing mostly on planning, so I had to exclude her from the majority of the planning. I tell her about the decisions we've made, but she doesn't get the final say and I've made that clear to her.

I do think that inviting certain family members and not some will create a lot of unwanted tension amongst everyone. Do you think that the drama that has occurred the past 6-7 months will be a forever thing? Or do you think this is something that will pass? In the end, you want people at your wedding that love and care about you regardless, just think about whether you want to deal with family tension for years to come afterwards.

View Quoted Comment Not sure, really. This could last a while... I think I may just invite everyone anyway and see who comes (most guests are out of state, so it’s less likely everyone will make it). All I’d have to do if they do a how up is talk to them for 10-15 minutes at the very least and thank them for coming. I can suffer for that long 😂😂

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Haha gotcha! Yeah just be the bigger person and be civil if any drama starts to occur. Don't let anything ruin your day!

You can invite people you want to invite or don’t invite those you don’t to your wedding. However, if your wedding 3 years away I wouldn’t really worry much about guest list specifics at this point. A lot can change in 3 years.

I avoided it completely and I'm opting to elope.

Invite whomever you can't imagine the day without. If that means some people are not the list, that's how it goes. If they get upset and cause drama, that's on them. Don't let anyone guilt you inviting anyone you do not want in attendance no matter who they are. The next person in line to get married can invite them to their own wedding, but you stand your ground.

Ugh going through the same thing. My mom and one aunt started a bunch of drama with me and a different aunt I’m closer to. My mom has had issues with not being able to control the planning pretty much since we got engaged, but she’s said and done nasty stuff to me and the one aunt since and I’m currently not speaking to her. My wedding isn’t for another year, so I’m hoping things get better. Right now I’m planning to just my mom and aunt 1 on a different side of the venue then aunt 2. But if anyone does try to cause a scene there will be an off duty police officer there for security.

I say screw family drama. If they can't get over themselves for 1 freaking day, they can go to hell. No hate, just don't need the negativity around me on one of the best days of my life.

Similar situation in my family, with toxic people. At first, some of the people I wanted there questioned why I wasn't inviting the others. I reminded them that I am an adult, and it was my choice who was invited. Any issues I had with the toxic family members were between me and them, and did not include the members I wanted there.
At first they were a bit upset, but they did ultimately understand. No drama was created when everyone could stop and think like adults.
You should never feel like you have to invite people you don't want there, even if they are family.

View Quoted Comment Yeah and it’s especially tough when they are family. It’s one thing if they’re just associates through mutual friends and what not. But I may just go ahead and invite them cause the chances of them coming are low anyway. They wouldn’t create drama at the wedding, it’s just a matter of us not really liking each other 😂 they’re petty but not petty enough to start drama at a wedding. I totally agree though, at the end of the day the decisions are entirely the bride and the grooms.