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Family Feels Entitled to an Invite??

Elizabeth, on June 28, 2020 at 11:12 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 13

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Hi, lovelies! My wedding was originally planned for July 5th (a week from today!) with 250 guests. Due to COVID, we postponed to September 20, 2020, and are anticipating that we'll need to lower our guest count to about 65 people maximum. We have several family members who feel entitled to an invite...however, we have many friends who are much closer and much more involved in our lives than said family members. I'm not really sure how to handle this. Do we save face and just invite the family members? Do we invite the friends, who actually care about us and spend time with us? I'd love some advice! Thanks so much!!

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Latest activity by Fmv, on June 28, 2020 at 5:43 PM

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Reena · on June 28, 2020 at 11:20 AM
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At this point I would invite the people I really want there. You have already made so many changes and been through a lot. The day is about you and your fiancé. Make sure you are happy.

My fiancé and I postponed our July wedding as well. We drastically cut the guest list for the postponement this also included family members.
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Devoted June 2020
Breann · on June 28, 2020 at 11:20 AM
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Decide what you'll be happier with in the long run. And go into it knowing you might NEVER hear the end of it if you opt to have more friends attend than family.
We've been married less than a week and my husband's dad just ripped him a new one, for probably the 5th time, over the fact that we eloped and they weren't invited.
Not to say that we regret our decision! We knew it was what we both wanted. It's unfortunate to have to deal with the entitled attitude of others though, so I completely understand your concerns.
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Dedicated September 2020
Jene · on June 28, 2020 at 11:22 AM
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Invite those who you want there and those who support your relationship. Just because they are family doesn't mean they are entitled to an invite.
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Lisa Online · on June 28, 2020 at 11:38 AM
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I agree - invite those that you really want there, especially with everything you've already had to go through. I think most people will be completely understanding if you're not able to include them, since COVID is forcing a lot of changes to events everywhere. If possible, maybe consider a live stream of your ceremony for those who you aren't able to invite? Otherwise, maybe send a marriage announcement afterwards.
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Mrs.a · on June 28, 2020 at 12:01 PM
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I definitely agree with PP. Invite the people you love and have the deeper connections with. That’s what we’re doing 💯
A close friend of mine went through this too with her intimate wedding a few years ago and some relatives got upset over it. They’ll deal with it.
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Kerin · on June 28, 2020 at 12:02 PM
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No one is entitled to anything. Invite as you see fit and the rest will either be understanding and celebrate with you later or they can throw their little temper tantrums over it. Either way, it is not up to you to protect their ego. You are making the best of a tough situation and anyone who can't see it from that perspective need to reevaluate. 💗💗
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Leanne · on June 28, 2020 at 12:52 PM
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I’m with Reena...we have a backup list of 50 if things don’t improve. I cut family more than I did friends.
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Cyndy · on June 28, 2020 at 12:55 PM
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Definitely invite the people you feel closest with. Don’t feel pressure to invite people based on their relationship to you. People may be upset but they will get over it.....it’s YOUR day!!
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Melle · on June 28, 2020 at 12:58 PM
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I would just invite the friends you want there
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Elizabeth · on June 28, 2020 at 1:13 PM
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Absolutely no one is entitled to an invite to your wedding. We're doing a smaller guest list than our families expected and they won't be happy about it, but it is what we want. They'll get over it. It's your day and you get to decide your guest list.
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Jasmine · on June 28, 2020 at 3:37 PM
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Definitely go with the friends who care about you. It's who you truly want there anyway. Don't settle to make someone else happy on YOUR day. If they get mad, then so be it. Like you said, you're not really close so just because they're family, doesn't mean they get a golden ticket.
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Jessica · on June 28, 2020 at 4:39 PM
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I agree with PPs to invite those you are closest to. We decided not to invite several aunts and uncles because we’re not close to them. Due to Covid we can have 50 people max, and if anyone has a problem with not being invited they better keep it to themselves. I absolutely refuse to put up with people complaining about decisions that are ours to make.
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Fmv · on June 28, 2020 at 5:43 PM
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Invite those who you know and that support you
5 years from now will you be happy looking at wedding photos and seeing family members who dont know you or your life?
Or will you be sad you dont have photos with friends.I say invite the friends and those who mean the most
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