Family Drama

Sorry but people always have opinions on what they forget is your day. Not everyone congratulates a couple and I think that's lost on men to reach out to do that stuff. I have to nah my fh to wish his mom happy mother's day and her birthday. Do you usually have a good relationship with your uncle? Your grandma needs to realize it's you and your fhs big day so who you invite is up to you and if she loves you she'll be there no matter what plus you can't invite your uncle and not invite his wife, that would be rude.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Kristen. I don’t have a close relationship with my uncle (I’ve talked more with his wife). I agree with you, if I invite him, I’m inviting his wife as well (they live under the same roof)... Just stinks that she wouldn’t be there for me for petty reasons. Thanks again for your reply!

View Quoted Comment Granted we know grandparents can be stubborn hahaha but honestly she may just be saying that. I don't think it would be a bad thing to invite your uncle more so because you have a relationship with his wife. You can think of it as you're inviting her and he is her spouse so by etiquette he should come. I probably would not say much else to your grandmother if you want her to go but if she asked you just going to tell her that it would be rude for you to invite him and not invite her especially when you have more relationship with her than your uncle. And then just let her know Grandma you would love for you to be there and it would honestly break your heart if you didn't go but at the end of the day you have to do what you have to do. Play the granddaughter guilt card on her.

View Quoted Comment Hahaha love the response! Thanks again for your advice!

😂😂😂😂😂 I’m sorry but I’m going thru the same thing and same response from my Grandmom and I told her, look mom mom I invited who I thought was worthy to come to our wedding. She got quiet then! Listen,don’t allow people to make you feel bad....invite who you want to invite it’s YOUR wedding!🥰

Oh my god, the drama. My dad's side are being major pains - one of my uncles is coming by himself without his family, and the other just declined entirely. I got so upset last night that my fiance had to calm me down and point out that they're probably avoiding my dad. My mom has thrown some class act fits too, mainly around my dad coming because their divorce was a hot mess. Stand your ground. If it's that important to you, you just have to tell people how it is and let them deal. I'm sorry you're dealing with that mess! Hopefully it gets better.

One of my FH's aunt was trying to threaten us that if FMIL shows up and even looks at her a certain way, she is going to call the cops. She also said that I should warn my family members about FMIL just in case she starts "acting up." Mind you, this aunt had initially given us some money towards our wedding and then immediately after she had, she started saying all these crazy things and basically making us feel terrible about moving forward with planning. Things came to a head, we gave her money back because we didn't want to deal with her shenanigans. Now, she knows we've pretty much wiped our hands clean of her, and she is trying every which way to weave her way back into our plans. She is no longer welcome at the wedding since she has uninvited herself. Sometimes, family can be the WORST when it comes to wedding planning. But, just invite who you want and don't mind what others say.

View Quoted Comment So true Sylvie! Thanks for replying!

View Quoted Comment I really thought they’d put their differences aside to support us but I guess their ego is bigger than that... Thanks for replying. Hope it gets better for you too!

View Quoted Comment Wow that’s a tough situation but good on you standing your ground. Thanks for replying Andrea and best of luck with everything!

This is why we decided to have an intimate wedding with only immediate family. It was a great excuse to others!