Family drama

It’s you and your fiancés day, get married wherever and whenever you want to get married. That day is completely about you 2, it’s selfish for his family to keep complaining. I hope it gets better

View Quoted Comment Thank I'm trying not let it get to me

I’ve been planning over more than a year now, but somewhere during that time I adopted a “if you don’t like it, don’t come” mentality. If people love you and want to celebrate with you, they’ll be there, if not you don’t need their negativity on your day. There are so many different types of weddings because there are so many different people, no one else can tell you two what is right for you. Also, you and your FH need to be united in your decisions and present a united front to those who will inevitably have their own opinions. My FH has said he doesn’t care throughout planning (he does, but not about most of the little things, mostly about when/where/with who), but when people question our plans he backs me up. Good luck!

So many people will have opinions about things for your wedding. You just have to stick to your grounds

Do what you want. Everyone will always have their own opinions on things. If they weren't complaining about this, they would find something else to complain.

PPs are right, but I also want to ask, why are they complaining? Just because they're not fans of the beach?

Or are they worried about a whole lot of heat, not enough shade/water type thing? Concerns like that are valid. If it's just a "ugh, we don't *love* the beach" then PPs advice stands.

View Quoted Comment Some of them don't like the beach. And they are mad they have to divert 4 hours

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Divert 4 hours, like they have to drive 4 hours to get to the wedding? Or there's 4 hours between the ceremony and reception?

All weddings nowadays are somewhat "destination weddings" for someone invited, so it's not an insane ask, especially if they come early and get a hotel; did they expect you to get married somewhere closer?

View Quoted Comment 4 hours to get there.

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Yeah, totally reasonable. I suggest you look into doing a hotel block nearby for people coming in out of town. If they're just not fans of the beach, they don't have to come. The "dramatic" element usually goes away if you respond with, "we're planning for a beach wedding--that's our decision. How's your sister doing?" and divert the conversation.

Boy I get that FH parents are saying they won’t come on 10/3, they are local .., if fiancé’s sister comes from out of town they want her to quarantine for two weeks. They are wearing marks inside their own home. We are at level 3 of 4 now and staying down. My FH is beside himself.