Family Drama

You know what, I hope they can be well behaved on your special day knowing that it’s focusing on you. I hope they can be adults and know to be cordial and not have drama. But definitely don’t have to seat them together at all!

Can you assign someone to watch over each of them and escort them to a time out if drama starts? My parents were going through a nasty divorce when I got married and my alcoholic father was causing a lot of drama. I talked to his 3 brothers and they agreed to keep an eye on him and if he started acting up, they would removed him. All went well, but, during the festivities I noticed they keep him occupied and away from the bar and my mother.

When I was worried my mother was going to cause drama, *several* members of our BP stepped up to "chaperone" her. (She ended up not coming, which was delightful and made my day easier.)

Would any of your friends/BP be willing to do something like that? Basically, keep an eye on them/be their table mate, kind of distract them?

Though I also hope they'd be mature enough to behave... in my family, there's been history of altercations at weddings. So. I get it.

I'm sorry.

I would just have a talk with anyone who you think would cause drama and tell them that they need to be on their best behavior because the day isn't about them. If they don't think they can be cordial then don't come honestly

That is tough and I am sorry you have to deal with that! Like all of the above suggested I would first talk with them and tell them that if they can not behave on the YOUR day then they are more than welcome to skip it and you will celebrate with them later. Then if they do come see if maybe your friends or other family members can help babysit them since they are basically children.

I agree with PP. this is exactly what we had to do at my sons wedding. Have someone watch after them but set the expectations up front with them.