Family Drama

My guess is your mom doesn't want to see you hurt again, and is cautious. Best way to find out though is to ask her. Is is possible to have a heart to heart with her on this?

OK, well you can't make someone get excited for the wedding I suppose. Without knowing why she's restrained, I don't know what to say. I hope she comes around!

Agreed with this.

Some people get more excited than others, some people are more expressive than others, it just depends. Also some things are more exciting when theoretical and a little more scary when they become real. Marriage is a big deal, and its possible mom just has nerves or is giving you space and waiting to follow your lead.

The fact that you say your family is introverted and doesn't know how to talk about emotions is probably a large part of why your mom doesn't seem excited. If you can't talk about emotions, expressing them can be equally challenging. Maybe its a skillset your mom never developed, or your relationship with her is just not one where you get giddy together over things. Did she get excited about your other accomplishments and achievements when you were growing up, or has she always just been reserved?

I grew up with my best friend and we went through our super awkward teenage years together and only very recently have we actually started expressing emotion in physical ways and not had it feel super awkward. We're in our mid-30s, and have been friends for more than half our lives, but hugs were just something we didn't really do until recently, even though we are the person the other one calls when we need support, are upset, have good news to share, etc. Relationships with different people are different, and its pretty normal for your mom to not react in the same way your friends do to the same news.

My mom wasn't overly excited when I got engaged either, but she had her own issues going on at the time. Is that a possibility for you? Is your mom possibly going through something you may not know about that is causing her reaction to be different?

Nobody is ever as excited about your wedding as you are, so I'm sure she is excited, it's just not coming across as you would think/like it to be. What I did with my mom was I included her in the things I knew she'd be excited about. We made getting her dress a whole day thing, and she loved it. I invited her to do the cake tasting with us, which she loved. So then she started getting more excited for it.