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One other thing Latino families don't take kindly to being told no kids even if I tell them. They will ignore the invitation and decide for themselves.

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People will always find something about your wedding to have a problem with no matter what you do, you just have to accept that you can't please everyone. The way you plan on wording your RSVP cards is as polite as possible, but there will still be some that are bothered. If people bring it up, just tell them your venue/budget doesn't allow you to invite everyone's children. Some may decide not to come because of it, but that's just how it is. Good luck!

It's your day... do what works best for you!!! Who cares what anyone else thinks or says?! You're paying for it and you should really have your day the way you envision.

Doing the "we have _ seats reserved in your honor" would be the most polite way to go about this. I hope everything works out well!

It’s fine to put “we’ve reserved __ seats in your honor” or, we did “__ of _(number we filled in)_ attending”
It *is* impolite to put who *isnt* invited on an invitation , however— you know your crowd best, and some people ignore subtlety and being direct and saying it loud and often is important. So, do what you gotta do. We were specific with names on invites, did the “_of_” i mentioned above on rsvps, and spread the word casually amongst friends and relatives when we chatted about the wedding, and on our website said it was an adults only event. For us, that was all we needed and it wasn’t a huge deal, though it did mean a couple people didn’t make it for that reason.

I think it's good to put how many seats you've reserved on the RSVP card. Also, "Adults Only Reception" is a good thing too. However, you have already stated how your family feels about this, so you should expect some backlash, some resentment, and some declines. All of this is fine, as long as you and FH are ok with it. I would also make sure it's on your wedding website, and that you spread the word through both families and friend groups as early as you can.

But because of the cultural traditions of your family, you may have a lot of guests simply ignore this, and bring kids anyway. Make sure you have some kind of plan for that.

My husband and I are both from Latino families that take everyone and their mama with them to a party when invited. We successfully had a kid free wedding, my husbands best friend just had their 2nd baby I think 4-6 weeks before the wedding and they went without their baby as well. I was shocked because we expected them to bring their baby I mean barely 1 month old, but even they prepared for it and came. At first my MIL had some things to say about how the family would look at us and how we should invite the kids but after reaffirming that we were 100% sure this was our choice she laid off. Even she was happy about how much fun we had because there were no kids running around. It's your day so plan it your way especially if you're paying! I let my family know early on and repeated to those who needed a reminder. Its possible, make it clear in your invites how many people are invited and list them by name.

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Thanks everyone. I really appreciate everyone's input.