Family Drama

Oh man, my family has enough drama for seasons worth of reality tv. I’ve mitigated most of it for my upcoming wedding by not having a seating chart- this way no one sits next to someone they might fall into some drama with before the wedding. (We’re having a wedding of 80 people, might not work if you have a larger wedding) there are no forced interactions, and the venue is large enough that everyone can keep their space if they feel they need it.
Also some stern reminding to be on their best behavior in the presence of my fiancé’s family. Pride means a lot to them, so I’m hoping that can motivate them to keep it together.

I would say, find what motivates your family unit the most- are they prideful or emotional people? Reminding them that this is your big day can go a long way with some families, others need to be motivated in different ways- but you know your family best!

Oh, there was so much drama.

My mother was IRATE that I didn't put her name on the invitations, to the point where we have not spoken since June. I ended up blocking her across all platforms for my own safety.

She made her entire family not come to the wedding.

My advice is to just let people know that they are wanted at the wedding, but if they choose not to come, it is their choice.

And then let it BE. Talk to your FH, talk to your friends, but put the drama in a corner and walk away!

We can often carry the weight of others’ burdens because of their proximity to us even if it doesn’t necessarily affect us. Is that a situation here? If so, I would definitely attempt to make peace with it and not let it be a bummer for your wedding day. However, if it is something that directly affects you - I would encourage To continue confiding in your support system, still try and make peace with it and place it on the back burner until after the wedding.

Drama is more typical than what we want or need it to be. Remembering yourself, your values and, understanding what you can and cannot change will be the critical keys to help you navigate during this time. Share with your loved ones how much their presence means to you, share the vision you have for your day and charge them with supporting you as you need.

Enjoy your day! You only get one of these (hopefully) with the love your life. I wish you the best.

Hi Ken! Welcome to the WeddingWire community! I’m so sorry that you are having to go through this. It’s never easy dealing with family issues, but know that this community is here for you when you need us.

If you feel like this news from your dad is something that you need to deal with, then take the time to do so. It has obviously made a huge impact on you and you need to take the time to process what it means to you. It’s great that your FS is so supportive and understanding of what you are going through. I’m sure this will make a huge difference to you.