I just got engaged to my long time boyfriend of 3 years and i'm so excited to finally be in this season with him. I am originally from Florida and moved to Arizona about 2 years ago to be closer to him. I was pretty quick to jump on selecting my bridesmaids/MoH and sending them cards asking them to be apart of the day. I asked my sister whom i'm not necessarily close to, to be my MoH because I didn't want to cause drama by not having her as my MoH as she has already expressed a few times before I got engaged that if I didn't choose her that she would be super hurt and upset with me. Well regardless of what I wanted I chose her to make her happy and all she wanted to do was go dress shopping with me which is difficult since I live in Arizona and she lives in Florida. I decided I would go to FL over July 4th weekend since I have off work and while there my FH and I could do an engagement party with some family who most likely won't be able to fly for the wedding. I told her I wanted to go dress shopping in July with her, my mom, and grandma, but that I wanted to be productive when I went since we are limited on time so I was going to go dress shopping to find my size and what kind of style I wanted and they agreed that it would be ok to do that. As I started researching about dresses I realized though that it could take a dress 6-8 months to come in and then I would still have alterations on top of that. July is at the 7 month mark so I expressed to them that I was nervous of waiting that long and of possibly not finding one and having to come back to AZ empty handed and scrambling to find a dress. My sister kept putting it down and stated that I could always just find one off the rack and I told her that I don't want to just settle for a dress off the rack, but she just brushed me off. Well I went the other day with two of my close friends/Bridesmaids and I ended up finding my dress and it was amazing and beautiful and my mom got to be there via facetime. When my sister found out she called me very upset and asked why I keep hurting her and stated that I had betrayed her and broke my promise of waiting until July. I told her that it was an accident and that I wasn't intentionally trying to hurt her I was just trying to be efficient and it just happened and asked if she could forgive me. I called her the next day and tried to let her vent and I apologized again for hurting her and now she is bringing in past hurts and pointing out all my flaws. She said there is absolutely nothing I could do to make this up to her and left me in tears all day yesterday. Now finding my dress is a memory marked full of negativity and pain. I understand that I hurt her, but I feel like she shouldn't hold this over my head and not bring up other past hurt/pain that i've caused her. My FH thinks I should tell her she's not my MoH anymore and that he isn't going to put up with this drama and I fully agree, but I guess I just want to get any advice or see if I'm even more in the wrong than I already know. Any thoughts?
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