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Family Drama That i Want No Part of

Paulette, on March 11, 2020 at 4:58 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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FH has a cousin who's always into some type of argument or fight with his girl. He had FH's sister call in and RSVP for him without the girl. I took her off the list now he's begging us to put her back on and even offering to pay for the plate. My FH says to put her back on because the cousin promised that there will not be drama at the wedding but I am so mad right now I can spit! (sorry. I know that's nasty but it's how I'm feeling) I told him that he has to wait until Sunday (the deadline is Saturday for RSVPs) and I would let him know. Has anyone else had family drama that made you want to do things? What would you do in this case? I kind of never took her off but I'm hoping I get everyone else to call in and he would have to pay. I'm too close to the day and have too much other stuff to deal with. UUGGHHHHH!!!!

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Latest activity by Paulette, on March 16, 2020 at 11:29 AM

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MrsD · on March 11, 2020 at 5:08 PM
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We told our caterer 5 more people than originally RSVPed. We didn't want to run out of food and wanted to be careful in case people showed up that didn't RSVP. We had security at our wedding, but they just hung out in the background all night. No issues.
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Eshell · on March 11, 2020 at 5:57 PM
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Okay first of all it’s y’all wedding y’all make the rules. Secondly , I would NOT make him pay because it gives them the mindset that they can come and do whatever they’ want to at YOUR wedding. ....I would let him know at the very last minute ...11th hour if it’s an opening. Periodtttt !
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Margaret · on March 11, 2020 at 6:15 PM
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I agree with pp and not allow cousin to pay, that lets him think he “paid” therefore can do what he wants. And definitely wait until the last minute to tell him OK.
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Allie · on March 11, 2020 at 7:06 PM
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My FH has a groomsman who’s girlfriend is always starting an argument with him. They’ve been dating for years but every time they go out, it ends up being a huge scene/ argument that she always starts. She also has called FH mean things as well which really rubbed me the wrong way. I don’t want someone at my wedding who does not support my FH or I, much less someone who will make one of my FH best friends miserable all night. Told FH to handle it and make sure he knows she will not be invited. Don’t care if they’re dating or not at the wedding (they break up what seems like every other month). Not sure if that helps but just remember it is your wedding and if someone causes you stress you are not obligated to invite them!
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on March 11, 2020 at 7:27 PM
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Very valid point. I would let them come but I would have FH make him know to not start stuff at the wedding or he will need to leave.
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Super October 2020
Leslie · on March 11, 2020 at 8:41 PM
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Don’t count her. If he brings her fine. I would never add people just in case because they always have enough food.
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Expert April 2021
Paulette · on March 16, 2020 at 11:29 AM
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Thank you all so much!! I have decided that I will add her back to the list. FH and I talked about it and he in turn talked to his cousin and told him that if there is any trouble, disruptions, outbursts, etc., they will be asked to leave. Stress level is way down! I'm feeling great today!!
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