Hi,
I am getting married in 5 weeks and the drama with my fiances family is starting to ramp up, to the point that the stress is getting too much for me and I'm starting to feel so sick about it all. I've lost about 5kgs from the stress.
I need to vent somewhere.
My fiance and I have 3 children together and our own home and moved interstate from family 7 years ago so our wedding is near our home and our family will be travelling interstate to our wedding, while our friends live close by.
The family drama leading up to the wedding is becoming chaotic. I mentioned to my future SIL about catering options for cocktail hour, and she proceeded to make 'jokes' about how low key the catering was and 'what kind of wedding is this, you should be having better food than that' - we are opting to do our own grazing table with pre-made sandwiches/wraps. We are paying for our own wedding by the way. I told my fiance about these comments and he rang his sister and she pretended she didn't say any of that and he told her to not joke with me about things to do with the wedding because it's too much on me at the moment and she then called me a trouble-maker to which my fiance didn't defend me on. My fiance then called his mother and spoke to her about his older brother (who wants to bring his girlfriend that we have never met and the RSVP deadline has been and gone and his brother refuses to make any contact with him and if we weren't getting married then he wouldn't make an effort to see us) and she told him to let him bring his girlfriend but not her two children from a previous relationship and we both said that we never met her, and then he asked about her health issues (she has a blood clot in her leg and her specialist doctor has said they can't do anything about it other than taking blood thinners for it) and then he told her to find a better specialist to which she started to cry about, so he said he had to go to help put the kids to bed and in that time his mum has rung up his sister. So about 30 minutes later his sister rings him back and she starts telling him not to ring their mum and yell at her - he never yelled at her, and he proceeded to tell his sister that if their mum is going to make up stories then don't bother talking to either of us and to not bother coming to the wedding.
Both his mum and sister have not contacted us since 4 days ago. We offered his sister a place to stay with us if she needed to with her children which she accepted and now has since gone and chosen new accomodation, which is fine.
I told my fiance that if his sister can't own what she says when it is repeated then that is a her issue and not to lie about it and I also said that his mum has created all this drama and making stories up.
At what point do you uninvite people if they are making you feel so stressed about everything? Do you invite the future brother in laws girlfriend that we don't know? If his family don't make contact with us before the wedding do you just tell them a week out to not come anymore? I don't want any family drama at my wedding and I can see more unfolding on the wedding day and the lead up to it from my fiance's side of the family.