Family declined wedding invitation

Shrug it off, hun. I wouldn't worry about their opinions or their reasoning. Your day is going to be fabulous whether they are present or not

No. They don't owe you an explanation. If they're not attending your wedding because of your sexual orientation, I would assume that their homophobia would have come up by now.

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I suppose you are right, but there is one of the cousins in particular that since she got married (and I attended with an ex gf) I have always really got a weird vibe from her when we are around each other. Either way, less money on catering!

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Thank you! I just hope we do not have to postpone!

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Don't worry until you have to there's enough stress already with wedding planning. I think September should be fine...and there's nothing wrong with a backup plan to still have your original date, too, even if the world loses its mind again

I wouldn't worry about it either. people decline for all sorts of reasons that aren't directly due to you

I’d let it go and enjoy the day with your loved ones that can and want to be there. If they haven’t said or done anything homophobic I wouldn’t necessarily assume that’s the reason why they aren’t attending. Like you said, they wouldn’t have been invited in the first place if that’s how they treated you or your relationship.

I would just let it go. We had immediate family decline our wedding and it was very hurtful but there’s nothing you can do. Just focus on the people who are there.

No ....Let them explain there reasoning to you. It's your wedding. You will find out someway if you guys are close def will

Don't worry about it. There are so many reasonable reasons one family unit might decline - they could have another event that day, they could be concerned about Covid, perhaps someone lost a job and traveling for your wedding is too expensive, etc. - or maybe they are bigots and don't support you marrying a woman, which says more about them than you. It's not something to get wound up about. No one is obligated to go to your wedding, and you will likely have plenty of other guests there to celebrate with.

I wouldn’t even think twice about it! You have plenty of other guests in attendance it sounds like.

I'd let it go. One of my best friends is a Lesbian and Republican / Conservative. So I wouldn't just chalk it up to politics. These are strange times and Covid has caused a lot of heartache and perhaps times / money are tough right now. I just don't think there is any reason to take offense to their decline.

I would not ask. I would assume it is due to the Covid, especially since you mentioned them having young children.

Let it be. Nobody owes you a reason for an RSVP no. Just assume it's COVID-19 unless demonstrated otherwise.

View Quoted Comment I’d like to believe that but I also know how they are. They’re also all very wealthy and live within an hour and a half of the venue. But it is what it is.

I wouldn't give it any thought, focus on the other attendees who are coming to celebrate you on your big day coming up.

I would try not to think about it (trying not to worry can make you more anxious). Planning a wedding gives you enough to worry about! One thing I would recommend, since you said you hope you don't have to cancel, is making a list with your fiancée of what you would do if you're forced to make certain changes because of COVID. Like if you weren't allowed to have everyone, would you cut list? postpone the whole thing? postpone just the reception? We did this early on and it helped me worry a lot less about the what ifs. It also made it easier when we did have to make a choice.

I hope you don't have to change anything, but making lists might be an easy way to relax a little bit.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate this suggestion!

Let it be.

Let it go but I would think so many declines this year will be due to Covid concerns.