Family death

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my mom close to 5 years ago now, I'm getting married in February and I think of her VERY often while I'm working on wedding things. I think if you're worried and feeling like you might want to change your date, don't. Five years in and I'm still emotional and feeling like I'm kind of missing something with her not being there, so I don't think time will change that...I say that in the most positive way possible. She would want you to have your day exactly as you were planning it! And she will definitely be a part of your day, even though she won't be there physically. We're doing a few things to honor her (sometimes I worry that it might be too much...but it's my wedding and I don't care). She tailored clothes, so I'm wrapping the stems of my bouquet with her measuring tape, I'm using a cake plate of hers on our dessert table for our "big" cake, we're having a memory table with pictures of people from both our families who are no longer with us, and we're also going to do a balloon release at the end of the ceremony. Nothing that screams MY MOM ISN'T HERE, i don't think..just some nice touches that people who know will appreciate. There will no doubt be difficult moments, but you will get through them! Best of luck to you!

I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re in my heart and in my prayers.

So so sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry for your loss. Hugs. Maybe wear a piece of her jewelry on your special day. As a Mom, I can tell you that the thing that makes us happiest is seeing our children happy. So just know that she is with you and she would want nothing more than for you to be happy on your wedding day.

I'm so sorry. I just lost my grandma. I would think of what your mom would have wanted. And I'm sure she would have wanted you to keep your wedding day as is. I would also take a break from planning for now. Take time to focus on you and grieving your mom. I can only imagine what you must be going through.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom last year a month after we got engaged. She had been sick for a while so we were expecting it but it was still difficult. I think I stopped planning for about 2 months. I had a picture of her at the reception.

I’m so sorry for your loss sweetheart! It’s going to be tough, but know she is going to be with you through the whole process♥️ Keep your head High!

I lost my mom about 2 and a half years ago at 19. I just turned 22 now and will be getting married next July. I’m going to be honoring her with a picture and a candle, with her wedding favor (a little glass bell) when she married my dad♥️

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how heartbreaking that must be for you right now. Maybe take a little break from the planning and see what your heart tells you. I think if you search your soul you may find that you mom would have wanted you to go forward and be happy. I've seen pretty bouquet lockets. Maybe that's a way you could have her with you.

I’m so sorry for your loss. This is so tough and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Take a step back and grieve for a bit before you focus on wedding planning.

As a thought, is your mothers wedding dress accessible to you? I’m not sure what that situation is for you, but I was able to cut a heart shaped piece of my mom’s dress and have it sewn over my heart in mine. I could never have fit into my mom’s tiny dress, and this was a way to keep her close to me. I will say, though, that my mom is still around and had a say in this decision but she’s been sick for awhile so I wanted to do something for her.

I'm so sorry for your loss. With your venue and photographer booked, you can afford to take a month or two off from planning and let yourself grieve. Do you have a sister or BFF who can go dress shopping with you when the time comes? Your mom will be there in spirit.

I think dress shopping might be the hardest part for you. You might want to let your consultant know what's up, so she won't be totally caught off guard if you get a little extra emotional when you go for your appointment.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom three years ago. She never had the chance to meet my FH and I get sad all the time thinking how much she would love him and how happy she would be to see me happy.

I am planning on using a charm on my bouquet with her picture. I am not sure what else I will do yet. I went dress shopping with her best friend. I have definitely had my moments of missing her and wishing she was here to share in all of this with me but I know she's watching and she'll be there for sure. Wishing you all the best and just know there are many of us here going through the same thing supporting you through this tough time!

Hi there- last year my mother passed away September 5, 2018. she had cancer had a battle with it for her all summer long and my father has passed away when I was 21. It was hard planning a wedding knowing that the most important people of my life wouldn't be there but I decided to incorporate small ways to have them involved in the wedding meaningful brooches inside my bouquet and like it's hanging on the side. It was difficult going to look at my wedding dress alone but I was not alone she was with me. If you are in love don't let this stop you from enjoying what should be the happiest time of your life

I am so sorry for your loss, and I know how heartbroken you must be right now. I lost my mother last year, unexpectedly, a few months before I got engaged. It was traumatic and a huge loss. When it occurs on the skirt-tails of a wedding you are broadsided by the reality of everything you will miss. But, remember that your FH is a blessing, I relied on my FH for so much strength in the last year; he made life stable when my world fell apart. I hope you find the same security and comfort in your FH.

As far as a memorial, you dont have to decide on any 1 thing. In the last year I have gone from big memorials, to thinking I couldn't stomach ANY memorial, to everything in between. My advice is to to settle on at least TWO memorials. One that is noticeable and emotional, AND one that is subtle, muted, and private. On your wedding day emotions will be high, for normal reasons, and then added emotions related to the loss. If you like the picture table or empty chair, plan for it. Order the things you need WAY in advance and space them out. [I even had someone look at mom's memorial vase for me, because I couldn't]. On the day of your wedding, if you find that you cant handle the big memorial, you have something that is less emotionally charged prepared. You can still honor her, but not have the joy of the day taken from you because you can change the two out at the last minute.

I have mom's memorial vase, engraved with her name. But it wont be a focal point. I plan to include 1 yellow rose in my bouquet [her favorite flower], but if it becomes something negative on the wedding day, I will 100% take it out.

Also remember that other family members are grieving, and we all heal at different rates and in different ways. What you do may also be influenced by the emotional stability of your loved ones at that time.

Take your time, change your mind as often as needed. You will land on whats right for you. But allow yourself to feel what you do, and strive to be logical in your expectations of how different memorials may impact you. I wish you and your family all the love and healing possible. It will get better.