Family Dance- Alternative to Father- Daughter/mother-son

I totally understand weird family dynamics. I think the idea that your maid of honor has is great honestly!

I’ve never heard of it but I think it’s a good idea. You could also skip the parental dances period

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I know that if I completely skip the parental dances, I have people that will be upset. I don't want to upset anyone. I thought this would be a nice compromise for everyone.

My MOH suggested everyone learning the dance moves to "Thriller".

I also decided that I didn't want to do the father-daughter dance. One idea I came up with to try to replace it with something else, is to have the DJ play my parents' first dance song from their wedding, and let my parents dance during that time.


I think doing a family dance is a good idea! Otherwise, your fiance could do two mother-son dances, one with each mom?

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Honestly that's not an idea I am a fan of. Which is why I would want to do just one. And I want to avoid hurt feelings.

View Quoted Comment It’s your wedding ... not everyone will love everything that you do/plan for it. If you want to do a group dance then go for it! But plan your wedding based on what you and your fiancé want, not others.

It's also ok to skip the parent dances. They are not required.

View Quoted Comment I know it's not required but I want to find a way to compromise. I know people will be unhappy. However I want to minimize upsetting certain family members I'll have to be with, constantly.

If you plan your wedding hoping to keep other family members happy or appeased, you are setting yourself up for failure. Learned this the hard way. Plan the wedding you and FH want, and nobody else. They will get over it


That said, if you want to do this, does everyone have a SO to dance with? You could invite your parents and their SOs to dance to a romantic song with you and FH. Or, if you want everyone to be an individual dancer, you could find some simple choreography--maybe even make it a flash mob hehe.

A family dance is a thing. I haven't ever seen one, but I have heard of people doing them.