Family Blow up - now i am uninvited from cousin's wedding

Personally I would still mail them since you already bought them and it may blow over. In my experience families fight and then act like nothing happened later.

I would still send them the gift. I would just ship it directly to them though and avoid additional family interaction. Going to grandma's might help add fuel to the drama fire - sending it to them personally is impartial.

I think that's a very personal decision. Etiquette-wise, neither option is wrong. If you feel like this issue is going to blow over and you might regret not giving the gifts, go ahead and send them.

It's up to you.
But I probably would just return them.
If they dont want you, they dont need your gifts.

I’d say that’s kind of based on you, at the blow up. Especially it it’s not beef between you and cousin specifically, I’d still be inclined to want to gift. If cousin was specifically disinvitinge to be hurtful to me or to make it sting, heck no, gift would be returned (haha or kept if I liked it). The relationship between you and your cousin is important here, in addition to the drama. It IS worth noting though that if you DO return the gifts, that is specific information that WILL be available to your cousin: so, she won’t just see that a registry gift is available again and she won’t just think you opted out of gifting — the store registry records can clearly show that you bought a present and that you returned it.....so just something to be aware of for your considerations.

I would just mail them to her, regardless of whatever happened she’s still family. Do your part and hopefully things will blow over.

I would return them.

I would mail them. Hopefully it will blow over as it’s kind of odd to get so mad because you couldn’t attend her shower due to prior commitments.

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I agree 100% But what could be so bad that they uninvited you? Did they actually say you were uninvited??

I would just mail the gift and give it time to blow over. I wouldn't push it and let them come around on their own. I also want to say that your question says a lot about you. You care enough to want her to have the gifts that she requested. You are very considerate to think more about her and not just your own feelings. I hope things get resolved quickly.

The blow up was over the bride-to-be's younger brother molesting my daughter 12 years ago when she was 5 and he was 11. It was not handled properly and my daughter made a statement which sent them into a tizzy about how she has been dealing with depression and PTSD, etc. They blocked us all and uninvited us to the wedding and bridal shower "because it would make him uncomfortable" to have us there.

This isn't going to blow over any time soon so I have decided to return them.

I would have cut all contact with them long ago. I would not even consider going, even if invited.