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Family at the wedding

Victoria, on July 3, 2019 at 7:49 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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I’m torn in deciding whether or not to invite many family members to my wedding ( my parents included) i don’t have the closest bond with many of them so I think I only want my uncle and his gf to come .i wouldn’t mind inviting my parents but i don’t want the criticism about not having anyone else from the family really there and they feel out of place. (my big day right ?! ) I’ve been to two other weddings in my family with my parents and they were huge with almost every family member possible there. I want something simple so i know i won’t have the same experience that they are used to. Is it wrong to not invite your parents or most of the family? I just feel like instead of enjoying my event they would be judging it. ( come from a hispanic household if that helps with what i mean by judging.)

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on July 4, 2019 at 3:43 AM

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Shannon · on July 3, 2019 at 10:45 AM
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We have the same type of situation. My grandmother, who is the only family I was really close to passed away a few months ago. My parents and I aren't on bad terms, but we're not close. I am not at all close with the rest of my family. Adam's family is judgmental and he's not close to anyone but his dad who is not a big proponent of marriage in the first place. The only family I am inviting are my parents and I'm honestly absolutely okay if they don't come. I'm not sure Adam will invite any of his.
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MrsJohansson · on July 3, 2019 at 11:08 AM
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I don't think it's bad. A lot of people either don't have positive relationships or the family members have died. Make decisions that you can live with because ultimately your wedding is your day. Don't invite every person just because other people have done it. Invite people who matter and who will support you.
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D · on July 3, 2019 at 11:26 AM
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You could talk to your parents and be upfront about who in the family you are inviting. Try explaining that their opinions are not wanted on the subject at all and if they can't handle it or choose to try to change your mind they will no longer be welcome to the wedding.

It's up to you whom you want there. If you think you might have regrets they were not there, I would take the chance of having that conversation. I don't believe it's necessarily wrong they aren't invited however there may be long lasting conflict because it wasn't an option for them.
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Victoria · on July 3, 2019 at 1:24 PM
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Thank you , that’s what I was thinking about doing. I only see my parents every 6 months or so I might have to set up a time just to have this conversation and see how it goes. If they are understanding and okay with my choices then I would be more than happy to have them there!
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Victoria · on July 3, 2019 at 1:27 PM
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Yes, I will extend the invitation after talking to them about who I plan to have there and if they are genuinely okay with that then I’m happy they were part of my day, if not then I don’t think it would affect more then who will be walking me down the aisle. So sorry to hear about your grandmother passing, so difficult to lose the only person you had a good relationship with. ♥️ She’ll be watching over your day smiling for sure !
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Victoria · on July 3, 2019 at 1:31 PM
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Thank you! So far my guest list is made up of all the people in our lives who have been positive and amazing one way or another. More friends then family honestly but neither of us are close to many of our family. I don’t want to pay for a massive guest list for people i haven’t had around just to please the few family members we plan to extend an invite to.
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