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Future Mrs. Cwik
Devoted March 2021

Family and Friends joking about wedding

Future Mrs. Cwik, on May 13, 2020 at 1:50 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
Maybe I’m being sensitive, but has anyone else had family/friends making jokes or light-hearted comments about their postponed wedding?


We had to reschedule to 10/30 and we’re hopeful to have it, but now we have people joking about wearing costumes to the wedding. I have a friend who keeps saying it’s a perfect date because it’s basically a funeral. We have people saying “wow you’ll have such a cool story to tell”, but it’s a really sad story, not a cool one. Or they’ll say “good luck, October is going to bring another wave and you’ll have to cancel again”
I don’t know how to respond other than saying, “Please don’t make jokes about our wedding. We put a lot of work into it and we are devastated.” Or “Please be positive for us.”
Anyone else dealing with this while trying to keep up hope for their wedding?

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Latest activity by Future Mrs. Cwik, on May 13, 2020 at 7:35 PM
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    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I am sorry this is happening. Because it is the day before Halloween they might be thinking it will be a Halloween themed wedding. I would make it very clear that your wedding isn't a Halloween party and costumes aren't accept attire. As for a second wave, that is definitely a possibility and I would have a back up plan in the event you would need to cancel again.

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  • Jenna
    Dedicated September 2020
    Jenna ·
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    Are you serious?! Girl I am so sorry you’re going through that! If they’re being rude like that then cut them off the list. Less people you have to pay for honestly
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    Super October 2020
    Trisha ·
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    Nobody Knows What Is Going To Happen In October, Mine Is 10/17 And We Have No Intention To Postpone At All. Ignore The Others Is All iCan Say. I Think Responding Adds More Stress That Isn't Needed.


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  • Kate
    Expert October 2020
    Kate ·
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    It sucks, people are ruthless, insensitive and love using anything or anyone they can as the butt of a joke. There's literally always going to be someone. Smiley sad

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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    I find that very rude and very ...ingorant of them im sorry....however we dont know if a second wace will occur they are predicting it will be but we wouldn't know. Ill say contiune to plan and each month we will see. Good luck
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  • Katharine
    Expert July 2021
    Katharine ·
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    I think your responses are right on. We haven't had anyone joking about it, that I'm aware of, though were getting inundated with questions about whether we were going to postpone or not in the weeks before we made the call to do so.

    I think the worst I've heard is the same comment about having a story to tell. I haven't taken that as a joke though. I think that's the bumbling way some people are trying to cheer us up, or be positive about the postponement. We've just tried to maintain our sense of humor about it, and keep the perspective that this is just one day in the rest of our life together, whether it takes place now or next year. Plus now we get two weddings! :-D That sort of thing.

    The comment about having to cancel again is just plain rude. And I would probably flat out (calmly) tell anyone who said something that to me that they are being rude, hurtful and inconsiderate. I would hope that anyone who isn't TRYING to be rude would immediately apologize. Your stated response is far more restrained than I would be. But if someone says that more than once, feel free to tell them they're being rude. People are often shocked to be called out on their rude behavior, but call it like it is.

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  • Future Mrs. Cwik
    Devoted March 2021
    Future Mrs. Cwik ·
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    It’s hard because I know people mean well, but they don’t realize they’re being rude!


    Also love the spelling of your name - I spell my name that way too!!
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