This is both a post seeking suggestions and venting out my frustration at the same time.
I am a fairly open-minded person, my whole FH side of the family (except him) is very against COVID guidelines. I am okay with that, it's their choice, as long as it doesn't affect my loved ones and my health.
They were not happy when I had to move my wedding from the original date of 9/6/2020 to after COVID isn't a concern. I understood it may take a couple of years of postponement, but we considered getting married when it's safer.
We recently looked into the possibility of getting married early next year, and what needed to be done to do this safely.
The family refused to get vaccinated (even though the future MIL is a nurse)
They think COVID is just a flu
They go out to party and live like COVID isn't a thing
They refused to wear masks at the wedding
They refused to provide negative COVID test results prior to the wedding
Most of them have gotten COVID in 2020 - one of them almost didn't make it
That ticked me off. I get it, not everyone believes the vaccine won't have side effects, but refusing the COVID tests when I will be providing (15min at-home test kits) to the entire family?
The entire family includes: mother, father, brother, sister, brother-in-law, nieces, godparents, aunts, uncles, grandparents. Literally everyone in their family.
The grandmother is very upset with me, in her eyes I am the hold up to her grandson not being married. This is simply a risk I cannot let my loved ones take. My mother has lung issues, my godmother is immune-compromised, another guest cannot get vaccinated due to health reasons. The list can go longer.
Not having a wedding ceremony or reception is not an option. I have thought about getting married first and celebrate later; however, I am not loving the idea. I don't think it will feel the same.
If this were you, how would you guys approach this situation?