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Families that dont get along

Cassie, on August 10, 2019 at 8:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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Hi all! I am wondering about how to go about inviting family. My main concern is between my sister and my dad who I would both like to attend. However, their relationship deteriorated a while ago. Stuff went down and needless to say a restraining order was issued. How does one navigate this kind of situation? I would hate for one to use it against another or have one excluded and essentially pick favorites when I get along with both. Especially when it is questionable as to whether one should have been issued in the first place, or if the person issuing was just angry. Any advice?

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Latest activity by Renay, on August 13, 2019 at 11:02 AM

Champion August 2017
Mrsbdg · on August 10, 2019 at 9:10 PM
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Is the restraining order still active?
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Savvy March 2021
Cassie · on August 10, 2019 at 9:15 PM
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As of right now I believe it is. I try not to discuss it with either one of them. I suppose it may lapse by the time the wedding comes but it's an overall awkward situation
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thisismrsb · on August 10, 2019 at 10:04 PM
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You definitely need to discuss it with each of them. Whoever issued the order needs to find out the legalities of having the two of them in the same room at the wedding. You may want to consider seating them on opposite sides of the room.
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Cher Horowitz · on August 10, 2019 at 11:26 PM
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Definitely get clarification on the legal part first and go from there. I'm sorry you're having to worry about this. Hopefully by the time of your wedding, things will be better!
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Master September 2019
Colleen · on August 11, 2019 at 12:03 AM
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If the restraining order is active it is illegal to have them in same room.
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D · on August 11, 2019 at 2:36 AM
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You may have to invite one to only the ceremony and the other to the reception only.

If it's held at the same place make sure to leave a time buffer of when one has to leave and the other is allowed to show up.
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Renay · on August 13, 2019 at 11:02 AM
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You need to talk to them and discuss the legal issue first and foremost.
After that, I say you have a serious talk with them about how you expect them to behave at your wedding. My mother and my sister are NOT on speaking terms, haven't been for 12 years. I want them both there. My mom being there is not an option as we are best friends, and she is catering and paying for quite a lot, as well as walking me down the aisle (our father passed). I called my sister and explained to her how much I wanted her there, but that it was MY day and I didn't want any drama. She agreed that this day is about me, and not their problems. I talked to my mom and told her I wanted to invite my sister, but also wanted to be respectful of her feelings. Luckily both of them have agreed to be polite long enough for me to have my special day. They won't have to sit together, but I am making them stand for pictures.
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