Families in different countries- should we even bother?

Would it be possible for you to do two ceremonies - one in each country? That way, you'd be able to celebrate with both families.

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That might be possible with a small ceremony, thank you (~:

Start saving what you can.
You could also set a budget and divide by 36 months and save that much each month.

Either do two ceremonies; one in your country and one in his; or elope. I dont recommend having a large wedding in only one place where others cannot travel to.

You could have a small ceremony and live stream in that way each family could see

Most of my fiancé’s family lives in Asia and can’t travel to the US. And vice versa. So we are doing a traditional wedding where we live and then doing a reception a few months later where his family lives. It’s not perfect, but that way everyone can participate in something. Also, when I went to try on dresses, I sent pictures to his close family members to get their opinions. Then, even though they can’t be here, they are part of the process. We can afford to do this with savings. I’d say - it never hurts to save money for the future!

We are doing one wedding in each country 😊 official ceremony is in the USA where we're spending our budget, the second is in China which his parents will plan.

Investing is NOT a guaranteed way to make money--in fact, the first year, the way I invested I lost money--but I got reinvested better since and have left a certain amount of the budget in stocks until closer to the big day. I would suggest putting away what you can in a way to make some passive income. I originally got the money invested a year before we even got engaged, so it can't hurt to plan ahead. 😂

My fiancé is from Spain and I'm from the US. We live in Spain and see his family often, whereas I see my family maybe once a year. His family knows me well, whereas my parents have met him once and my extended family never. We're planning our wedding in the US for my family's benefit so they can feel more involved in my life and actually have a chance to meet him and be part of this important day, since I rarely ever see them. We'll then have another reception back in Spain to celebrate with those who won't be traveling to the US.

Do you guys live in the same country as either one of your families?

Budget is pretty simple. Calculate how much each of you can realistically save each month and set it aside in a separate savings account. However much you can save by your wedding date is your budget. My fiancé and I already have some savings, but that's being set aside for a down payment on a house and won't factor into our wedding budget. We're basing our wedding budget off of what we can save in the next two years starting...now!

My situation isn't quite as far from each other as yours, but my FH and I live in Texas near his parents and some family, and the rest of his family lives in Georgia and Florida. My family all lives in the pacific northwest US where I'm from. His family cannot afford to travel, while mine can for the majority of them. I also have a huge extended family. So what we are doing is having our ceremony/reception where we live so that his family doesn't have to travel too much, and having a second reception in my hometown so that my extended family can attend.