Hi all,
Sorry for the long history here, but I feel like I have to explain the situation first.
I got married this past July. I have a very high-maintenance friend who, to be totally honest, I probably should not have even invited to my wedding, let alone asked to be in my bridal party. But she and I have a long history. We've known one another since I was born. I guess I felt obligated to give her a place of honor in my wedding, the way I would treat a sister if I had one, and that was my mistake.
Anyway, she has a pattern of freaking out at me when her life is going badly, telling me I am the worst friend ever and she never wants to speak to me again. We've been doing that dance since we were kids. Usually, I brush these tantrums off and just try to breathe and be the bigger person, but this time it went too far and I told her, as calmly as possible, that I accept, no hard feelings, and I wish her all the best.
She told me to go to hell.
My question is, should I return the money she gave me as a wedding present? It was a generous gift and she doesn't have the best finances. It meant a lot that she pulled things together and gave as much as she did. Since she now thinks I'm the devil, I kind of feel like I should give it back.
My husband thinks I should just cut my losses, keep the cash, and not have anything to do with her ever again.
I guess I don't know what the right move is. Does anyone have any advice?
Thanks!
