Just Said Yes October 2017

Fall Brides: Thank You Cards or Christmas Cards? Or both?

Sally, on December 6, 2017 at 6:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice

Our wedding was on October 28, and as soon as our wedding photos arrive this week we want to print out some thank-you cards to send to guests that gave us wedding gifts. However, I also want to send out Christmas cards this year, since there are so many great designs like "Our first Christmas as Mr & Mrs" or "Merrily Ever After". Does anyone else have this dilemma? Do you order Christmas cards and include a thank-you note with it?



  • Beachy
    VIP November 2017
    Beachy ·

    I am doing just thank yous. We never have done Christmas cards previously. (we might start eventually) but I just dont have the time to do that much.

  • Sunshine
    VIP September 2017
    Sunshine ·

    September bride, here. I think by this point people are tired of hearing from us (lol but really). I sent thank you's and decided we will do a Christmas card next year or maybe when we're expecting/have a baby.

  • McSkipper
    VIP August 2018
    McSkipper ·


    Eta: if you want to do a print out of you two that says "first Christmas as mr&mrs" and tuck that into a thank you card, that could be okay. But don't just add a "thank you" message on a Christmas card. I think it's super important to send a proper thank you card

  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
    Melissa ·

    Please don't do this. Our friends did this after their October wedding last year and I found it so rude and tacky. Fh was a GM in their wedding. I gave her a shower gift, never got a thank you card. And then we got this ridiculous Christmas card with a generic "thanks for sharing our day with us" printed on the card. No hand written note. Nothing personal. It was ridiculous and I was super annoyed.

  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·

    Maybe you can do a Christmas themed thank you card but, it should definitely be a thank you card.

    Honestly, it is too late now but, I would have done my thank yous immediately and pop them in the mail. Then you could do a cute Christmas card with your wedding photo in mid-December if you wanted.

    I personally feel like thank you cards should go out ASAP (though I know etiquette says you have a couple of months). A few years ago I went to my friend's wedding on a Friday by Tuesday I had a lovely personalized thank you card in my mailbox (she mentioned something that I said at the wedding so not something that was a form letter or pre-written). It's the little things that matter and that really stuck with me. I have similar goals for my wedding thank yous.

    ETA: Something like these could work with a nice handwritten note in each.




  • Constance
    VIP October 2017
    Constance ·

    We did both. Handwritten note in each thank you. Then a "Married Christmas" card mailed separately.

  • Laura
    Administrator June 2010
    Laura ·

    I would do simple thank you cards with a handwritten message and send them out ASAP. Then if you want to send out photo Christmas cards, get those printed and send them out a few days later. I wouldn't send them together.

  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·

    I would stop waiting for the pictures and get your thank you cards out now. Send a Christmas card separately if you want to send them.

    Your thank you notes aren't late by any means, but you will come across as lazy and cheap if you try to combine them.

  • Sos0033
    VIP September 2017
    Sos0033 ·

    Send a separate Christmas card if you want (I personally think it’s overkill). Stop waiting on your pictures to send out thank you cards. People can see your photos on Facebook later. Thank you cards should be sent out ASAP.

  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
    ambrok ·

    We combined the two but only because we knew we'd get our pics sooner than later. Our handwritten note inside is essential the TU with a little holiday wish as the closing. Kept it mostly a TU.

  • Amy
    Dedicated December 2017
    Amy ·

    I would personally just go to to Target, get a pack of thank you cards, and start going to town. Then send out Christmas cards with your wedding pictures on it later. It's better etiquette to get your thank you notes ASAP (I struggled HARD with this with my bridal shower since I was in school at the same time but I'm hoping that FH and I can get them all done together during our honeymoon week since we're not going anywhere).

    Edit: Etiquette wise you have up to 3 months to send thank you notes, but sooner is better.

  • Cassandra7
    Expert August 2006
    Cassandra7 ·

    I don't know what source says three months on thank-you notes; Miss Manners says as soon as possible (a matter of days).

  • JSull
    Master October 2017
    JSull ·

    I am doing them both seperately.

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