Facebook Event RSVP BEFORE Invitations

Ignore it. It's not your place to scold someone else for etiquette.

One of my friends did this same thing. I RSVP'ed yes, but I never got an invitation. I assume too many people RSVP'ed yes (he invited 350) and then he picked and chose who he invited. Then he started posting on Facebook (on his personal page, not the event page) about how the invites were out and people need to respond. He was begging for RSVPs on his personal FB page until the week of his wedding. THEN, 2 or 3 days before the wedding, he sends a note to the FB event asking everyone who RSVPed yes that he was excited, here's the registration info, and he looked forward to seeing all of us. I messaged him saying that I didn't actually receive an invitation so I thought I wasn't invited. I didn't even know where the wedding was. He said he was sorry that I thought I wasn't invited. Ummmm. I never got an invitation.

I didn't go.

If you're close, maybe send a private message. If you're not close to her, just let it be and do yours right.

Ignore it. Not your problem.

Ignore her but know that this is probably the beginning of a tacky wedding. The only reason I comment is because I have a cousin like that. Her most recent Shananagin was throwing herself her third baby shower and telling people not to come without a gift. We all have that one cousin

@T-Rex, just wow.

We probably aren't going to attend this wedding either.

Yeah. It had all the markings of a shitshow (based on the daily FB updates to everyone). But whatever. He's married and they're happy. I didn't side-eye him or anything. It wasn't worth getting irritated or high-and-mighty about.

@trex wow. That's such bull.

This is surprisingly common in my area. I've even gotten mass Facebook group messages asking for people's addresses if they'd like an invite. I never know if it's because the average engagement here is 4 months or if they just do the standard church potluck at the stake house....but a lot of people I've talked to think its' kind of weird to limit a guest list.

I was always annoyed by these messages/FB event invites...but just thought i was being a scrooge when it came to other people's happiness. Now I know I'm the normal one.

My one good friend did something like this and I was honestly gonna go but then I forgot BC I got bogged down in midterms and work. I didn't realize I forgot til the evening of. It might not be standard but sometimes there are reasons people do things. Not saying she has one but I just mean let the chips fall where they may. If it ends up being a great event woot, If not then watch and retell the story here for others.

People have lost the formal touch to these things because of social media. It is kinda bad but they probably thought it was a good idea. A friend of mine had her FH invite people to the wedding on Facebook and then a couple weeks before they set up another private thing on there for the bachelor/bachlorett party they were having. It seems really informal to do that but they probably have all their family members on Facebook and that was just the easiest way to do it.

FSIL is getting married in October and mentioned a ton of WW no-no's (we're talking honey fund and b-listing) but I just referred her to WW and kept my mouth shut.

It IS bad etiquette but ignore it. I know it's difficult but you must take the higher road as you hold the knowledge :-)

Ignore it. Not your circus not your monkeys

I seriously hate FB invites, and to do that for a wedding! Wow, I get why you want to tell her something but I would just honestly ignore it.

Hahahahahaha. Oh boy.

I hate FB invites with a passion!! Especially for weddings. I just think it is a very lazy way of inviting people.

I had to start with FB because I realized that I didn't have any addresses to send invitations to. I never send Birthday cards or letters or anything really through USPS. It took me about 6 weeks to get addresses and mail out invites. I was REAL tempted to just do a FB event...