Megan
Beginner October 2019

Extreme nerves

Megan, on August 26, 2019 at 12:49 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 20
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I am not the type that likes attention whatsoever. I had my shower over the weekend and was completely over taken by nerves walking in with everyone looking at me. It was the perfect shower but I came home and got sick from my nerves. I don’t want this to happen the day of the wedding but I also want to be completely present Any ideas?

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  • Amber
    VIP May 2020
    Amber ·
    I also want to follow on this. I'm extremely shy around people, and until just now I didn't really think about how I'll be the center of attention on my wedding day. Kinda terrifying me now that I think of it
  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
    I would say to remember to breath when you get nervous. On the day focus on your FH during the ceremony and try not to look at other people until it’s over and you can relax. It will go by so much quicker than you think. I was very nervous about walking down the aisle and having everybody look at me but I honestly looked straight ahead and tried not to focus on anything else and once the ceremony was over I could relax and really enjoy my reception
  • Karla
    Dedicated July 2021
    Karla ·
    Omg same!!! I’m glad I’m not the only one😭
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I never thought it would be a big deal until my shower!
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    Yes! It definitely helps to have my fiancé there. I never thought it would be a big deal
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I’ve never liked attention but I didn’t think it would be that bad
  • Ruby
    Dedicated October 2019
    Ruby ·

    I'm nervous too! I'm NOT a good public speaker, my voice shakes & everything regardless of what I'm talking about. I'm hoping I'll be so excited & a little bit more comfortable (since I'll know my audience well). I'm also hoping I'll just kinda roll with the punches and allow myself to laugh or cry so hopefully that'll help me

  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Aliciabilly2019 ·
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    Good idea !! I haven't been nervous till today i think bc there is 3 days till the i dos im so nervous so this is deff a good idea just eye on the ball kind of thing and ball being FH walking to him ...
  • A
    Expert January 2020
    Abby ·
    If you can get lavender or peppermint this might help you can put some on your wrist. I get a very upset stomach when I am overwhelmed and peppermint helps me not get sick and lavender helps me calm down!
    Also make sure you breathe and don’t lock your knees! Also during the ceremony just pretend it’s just you and him then during the reception things should be better, people will socialize and normally only a few ppl at a time come up to you.
    Hope this helps some. Just take it one moment at a time. Good luck 😄
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    My whole body shakes. Luckily it’s not noticeable but I’ll already warned my fh that I’ll be shaking
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I love that idea! I really don’t want to have a drink before because I want to really experience it
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    That’s what I’m thinking. Just focus on the groom
  • Ruby
    Dedicated October 2019
    Ruby ·
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    My best friend went from her usual pale self to super splotchy & sweaty. I'm sure it happens to more brides than we know! Congrats!

  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    It definitely helps. Pretend it’s just the two of you there.
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    Good to know!
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    Thanks so much!
  • Jennifer
    Just Said Yes April 2020
    Jennifer ·

    My wedding is about 8 months away and I'm already anxious thinking about standing up in front of everyone, so I can totally relate to you on this one. I generally have anxiety and deal with it from time to time, so I won't be surprised if it does happen. I agree with what everyone else said- to focus on the groom, and breathing, and being present in the moment. I also take CBD chocolates before bed to help me sleep or when I'm feeling nervous, and to be honest I'm not sure it physically does anything and could just be a placebo effect, but it definitely helps me! If you don't usually struggle from anxiety then maybe other remedies would work better for you but it also might be worth looking in to.

  • Eyonna
    Dedicated May 2021
    Eyonna ·

    I'm super shy too! My FH proposed to me at a friends and family BBQ where I'm normally ok because I know everyone. But when the attention shifted from everyone to us (well me) I froze. Don't even know what he said, saw the ring, said yes, held on to him for dear life crying and told him to stop embarrassing me. I completely understand your nerves as well as others that have expressed being the center of attention and love the question and the advice given. I have time to figure out what I'm going to do the day of the wedding but am taking notes on what others have said.

  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    That’s a great idea. I do have anxiety issues so I’ll have to look into that
  • Megan
    Beginner October 2019
    Megan ·
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    I’ve always been anxious and nervous but I never expected it to hit so strong at my shower that I got sick so i really want to have a plan

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