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Super February 2020

Extended family complaining!

Merline, on May 29, 2019 at 7:46 PM Posted in Planning 0 23

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So FH and I changed our wedding date from 10/26/19 to 2/29/20 (due to venue issues, not being able to find a new venue in a short time frame and just wanting a different/unique date lol). When we changed the date nothing was sent out (no STDs or invites). Well my mom called alot of extended family because she was excited that her baby was getting married (like legit I'm youngest and last one to leave the house 😂😂) and told everyone the October date! Mind you, not one extended family member had my number or checked up on me. They are literally only being invited because they are my dad's siblings and side. Well I spoke to some of them because my parents gave them my number *hard eye roll* and they called me to see how planning was going! I told them fine now that we have more time to plan and told them the new date (no one said anything to me or act like they were shocked). Now, everyone is calling my parents because February is an inconvenient month to them to travel because they may be snowed in as they have to travel from NJ/NY. They call them every week to see if I changed the date back to October as its warmer here in GA and the weather from North to South will be fine to travel. My parents told them that FH and I are the one's paying and it's our day and if they have anything to say then to call me! Well no one has called me but apparently my family from the North is complaining to the family in the South about the new date and to tell me to change it. I really dont know why its bothering me so much. Just last year my cousin got married on Christmas eve and not one family member from the north complained and they all showed up for her wedding!

Anyone else have difficult or complaining family or is it just me??!?!

Also we are not changing the date!

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Latest activity by Jessica, on May 30, 2019 at 8:18 PM

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Hannah · on May 29, 2019 at 7:51 PM
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I'm sorry you're dealing with this. That sounds obnoxious. When they get the invite, they can choose not to come if it's a problem for them!
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Gen · on May 29, 2019 at 8:26 PM
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That’s so annoying, I’m so sorry! You can’t plan a wedding around the weather lol. October is hurricane season so that’s comparable risk to blizzard season! I live in NJ and went on a plane this February....... weather was great both ways, not even a delay! Then meanwhile my wedding is this weekend (JUNE) and my great uncle is flying in tonight and his flight got delayed 4 hours because of thunderstorms and a tornado advisory in NJ 🤷🏻‍♀️ There’s always weather risks honestly the season shouldn’t affect that!
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Jessica · on May 29, 2019 at 8:36 PM
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So annoying.. Definitely not alone with the complaining family haha. Your FEBRUARY wedding is going to be beautiful
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Jasmine · on May 29, 2019 at 8:43 PM
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Wow! That's so childish. If they didn't have an issue in December, they shouldn't have an issue in February but in all honesty, them not showing up is more money in your pocket. Definitely don't let it get to you. Especially since like you said, you don't even really talk to them and none of them bother to contact you so it's not something I would take to heart.
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Courtney · on May 29, 2019 at 8:45 PM
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Kudos to your parents for sticking up for you. They're right, it's your day and you can do what works for YOU. Our date is 3 weeks from Christmas- and the weather here in MD can be iffy that time of year- and so far no one has complained. If they come great, if not we'll see you next time.
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Kelly · on May 29, 2019 at 8:58 PM
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Stick to your date. If it's really a problem they won't go. I don't see why didn't complain about the Christmas wedding because that's way worse. I'm up in New England and November to April is the WORST for flying here, but I wouldn't take it out on a bride.
Besides if they're in New York it's south enough where it's just turbulence mostly, and you can always take a train part way and then fly if they're really worried.
Sounds like they just want to complain 🤷
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Stephanie · on May 30, 2019 at 12:50 AM
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I’m rolling my eyes at them. I love the new date!!! Will you celebrate your anniversary on 28th or the 1st?
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Cher Horowitz · on May 30, 2019 at 2:45 AM
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Ugh, sometimes family members feel so entitled. This is your wedding, not theirs! If they don't like February, they don't have to come - saves you a little money
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Kristin · on May 30, 2019 at 9:26 AM
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My family cries about having to drive an hour (northern IL/southern WI... where driving an hour to anything is pretty standard) when my parents or brother host Christmas (my house is the farthest, smallest, and I have 3 big dogs so we just avoid the commotion lol). For that reason, we are doing the wedding near O'hare, closer to all them, instead of up here in WI where it would make life easy for me.
Tell your family in the north to book flights on Southwest so they can change the flight day if they see a major snow storm coming through on the day they are supposed to fly lol. We have 2 Dec. cruises booked out of Florida (one is a mini moon, one is an annual family trip his family plans every year). We are flying down the night before we leave because time off work is limited but we are flying SW so if weather looks like it'll be an issue we can fly down a day early or whatever and not have to pay a change fee.
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 12:55 PM
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Exactly! I have other people who could take their seats.
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:02 PM
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Thank you! This is exactly what I said. When we set the date we dont know what the weather will be like. But I believe it was in the high 60s this year at the end of February! My MOH is coming from NJ and she has no complaints!
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:03 PM
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Hahaha glad I'm not the only one and thank you!
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Mrsjrs · on May 30, 2019 at 1:04 PM
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Oh brother! People are ridiculous. Don’t be bothered - they’ll get over it. If it’s really such a “hassle” in their mind, they won’t come. (Besides, would you really want someone who is gonna whine about something as small as you changing your wedding date VERY far in advance at your wedding anyway? )

If anyone approaches you asking you to change your date back to October, just let them know you’d be more than happy to take their suggestions if they want to pay for your wedding. Lol, not really. But just be firm about how since it’s YOUR day (not theirs), you’re making the decision that’s best for you and your FH, and ultimately, that’s all that matters.
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Gen · on May 30, 2019 at 1:05 PM
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Yeah I mean February IS generally a pretty snowy month in NJ but, there's weather problems everywhere, all the time! Like I said we had no travel delays last time we traveled in February, and now my uncle just had one in June. Just because snow isn't a problem in October doesn't mean there is no chance of other weather-related interference... bad weather is a risk anytime anywhere lol, you can't control that!
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:05 PM
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They are the type of people to complain then complain more even after the event is over. They might not even RSVP and show up!
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:08 PM
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My parents are happy because they had a cruise planned to leave the next day lol so they are fine with the new date. Haha if they do not come to our wedding I probably wont see them again unless someone else gets married!
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:09 PM
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That's what I'm thinking. If they want to come they will find a way! Just stop bothering my parents.
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:11 PM
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Same every time my mom tells me someone called her 🙄🙄🙄. But the 28th! Which is our actual anniversary!
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:12 PM
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Exactly. One aunt literally told my mom to make me change the date. My mom laughed. I have other people who could fill the seats!
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Merline · on May 30, 2019 at 1:17 PM
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Okay I'll let them know to book with them! I'm also accommodating them by having both ceremony and reception at one location. They complained during my brothers wedding in 2015 because it was at two different locations and they dont know are streets! They had it pulled up on gps..
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