Experiences With Mismatched Bridesmaid Dresses

Maybe instead of just asking which color they would like to wear, you could have them tell you if there is any color they would absolutely HATE wearing.

Are you going to have them wear the same dress, but just in a different color? My fear would be that totally different dresses and colors would look way too distracting or like you pulled random girls out of guests to come stand up with you. My photographer just did a wedding where none of the bridesmaids were in the same color or style of dress and I think it looked awful. The way they did it, they didn't even look like bridesmaids. I wouldn't have known they were part of the wedding party, if I didn't see them standing next to the bride and groom. Like Chrysta, I would ask each girl if they have a preference. I know there are certain colors I don't like or I think I look better in.

I had mine in different shades of pink and they were all in different dresses. I kind of told them the vision I had one by showing them inspiration photos of ones I found online. But there is always a fear of it clashing too much. That was my biggest anxiety was that I didn’t want one standing out so much more than the other or for it to look bad all together collectively

A great way to make sure everything looks cohesive is to choose 6 different shades of 1 color (or maybe 3 shades of 2 different colors).

I'm actually letting my bridesmaids chose their own dresses. I have two criteria -- long and red. That's it. I do want them to get as close to a particular red as they can, but I understand it might not be possible to match it exactly. The red they need to match is the tie for my corset back dress (yes, I using a red tie on my ivory dress) One bridesmaid has already ordered her dress and it's gorgeous. I know reds can read differently in different fabrics but I'm not concerned at all. I neither want, nor need my 'maids to look like clones of each other. I have 4 'maids of varying ages from mid20s to mid50s. They also have different body types -- from petite and curvy, to tall and busty. I want them to pick dresses that suit their taste, body type and budget. I'm more concerned with them feeling pretty than anything else. I will tie all the dresses/looks together with their jewelry -- which I will buy for them -- and the bouquets.

These are the colors I picked out.
My fiancè and I assigned colors to the bridesmaids. He keeps reminding me that end of the day it’s our wedding. Lord knows I’ve been put in dresses I didn’t like that much but I don’t complain because it isn’t my wedding and if it makes the couple happy that’s all that matters.

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It is your day and you should do what makes you happy! If you and your fiance have a vision and know what you want your day to look like, stick to that! I've been a bridesmaid several times... I didn't always like the dresses, but I am always willing to wear whatever the bride wants, especially when it comes to color. I'd say try to choose the colors either based on where they'll stand in line, so you can put complimenting colors next to each other, and also keep your bridesmaid skin tone and features in mind to ensure the color doesn't clash on her. These are great fall colors and I'm sure it will all come together very nicely! Your girls shouldn't give you too much trouble.. honestly if I were one of your bridesmaids I wouldn't care which color I had to wear as long as i got to pick a fit of dress i was comfortable in. I am loving how the different colors come together so nicely and I think different style dresses can even look great together!!

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I would definitely check with each girl. I know I wouldn't want to wear the yellow or orangish color, but my sister-in-law loves yellow so she'd be more than happy to wear it.